BW007 Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 What do you do if things are not getting better? I have gone a couple months now with NC and all that and I don't have false hope or anything, but I think that I have really collapsed as far as interacting with the world goes. My ability to deal with everything really is just not there and I am just so frustrated and burned that I am scared of my own shadow. I think(not exaggerating or being melodramatic) that I have gone a bit crazy. I do probably need a shrink but I am broke. I can't even really describe how mental I feel. No self esteem, no idea where my place in the world is, no hope is the worst part I guess. I am getting older and I don't even know how to get myself out of this and begin the next chapter. A lot of this is not just a result of the break up and a lot of this internal torment contributed to the breakup, but the way everything went to hell just sent me over the edge. I feel so stigmatized by the breakup and my depression that I feel emotionally paralyzed
boogieboy Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 Pull yourself together dammit! Stop feeling sorry for yourself. I went though this, and the only way I found to start getting confidence again is to start flirting with women. A smile and a cute conversation goes a long way. You keep it up and eventually you will be able to get your head in the right direction again. You have fallen into your own void that was created by your ex. Its a vicious cycle of depression if you dont TRY to pull yourself out.
Author BW007 Posted June 19, 2009 Author Posted June 19, 2009 I hear you and I don't feel that sorry for myself as much as I am headed towards some real problems dealing with the world. I can't pull myself up by my bootstraps right now. This is beyond "Fake it til you make it" I don't know how to get everything going again and I feel like I just don't know what to do. I am not kidding when I say I may ACTUALLY really be a little crazy. Not in a joking ha ha funny way, or on the other hand, a dangerous way, but I know something has gone wrong big time in my head. What do you do if you are little messed up. Ok I accept that the way I am trying to cope is actually destructive. I have been in retreat I guess.
Author BW007 Posted June 19, 2009 Author Posted June 19, 2009 I hear you and I don't feel that sorry for myself as much as I am headed towards some real problems dealing with the world. I can't pull myself up by my bootstraps right now. This is beyond "Fake it til you make it" I don't know how to get everything going again and I feel like I just don't know what to do. I am not kidding when I say I may ACTUALLY really be a little crazy. Not in a joking ha ha funny way, or on the other hand, a dangerous way, but I know something has gone wrong big time in my head. What do you do if you are little messed up. Ok I accept that the way I am trying to cope is actually destructive. I have been in retreat I guess.
CaliGuy Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 Do you not belong to a Church. I would highly suggest you talk to a Pastor/Counselor there. It's usually free....
dudemag Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 i feel the exact same way. my life is at a complete standstill. its been 7 months but i keep breaking NC. it doesnt help breaking it, because it just sets you further back. some people just don't give a **** about you.
oldsoul Posted June 20, 2009 Posted June 20, 2009 Try changing things up in your life... go to the mall or book store .. anything to shake things up. Change your furniture paint the rooms what ever . You have it in yourself to get over the the demons you are feeling all you have to do is focus on you. Like you have heard/read a lot.... all that you control is yourself. and having read some of your posts you have the strength and courage to pull your ass out of this rut . All you need to do is apply yourself and day by day things will get clearer. I hear your pain my friend and your not the only one who has felt this way but apply yourself and the sun will slowly start getting brighter as each day goes. This is fact. Take Care and All the Best to you Just an oldsoul
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