Loxx Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 OK here is the backdrop. Me and this girl hung out all weekend she stayed over Friday and sat, and have been talking every night for about two weeks or so. She initiated interest in me first and probably a few months before we started talking. Last night i asked if she wanted to go get some sushi with me and she said she cant, she has made plans. But any other day she would love too. Well this morning we were chatting on Instant messenger, and i asked her if she had fun last night (i had a feeling she was on date). She said she did have a good time so i asked her if it was a date and she said sort of, This is her exact words "hes not really my type, I dont think" .... Ok im 10 years rusty in the dating world, what the hell is this? I dont know even how to react though my gut is telling me this is trouble.
iwanttolive Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 Could it be you did not do enough for her to show her that you care? There's this guy I've been seeing for the past one month but I just can't make myself commit to him because he hasn't gone an extra mile to show that he really treasures and cares deeply for me. He hasn't proved enough to me that he's worthy of my love. At the same time I don't want to tell him what to do because I want him to act from his heart and on his own accord. If you're not officially on an exclusive relationship, I think she has the right to date around.
northstar1 Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 OK here is the backdrop. Me and this girl hung out all weekend she stayed over Friday and sat, and have been talking every night for about two weeks or so. She initiated interest in me first and probably a few months before we started talking. Last night i asked if she wanted to go get some sushi with me and she said she cant, she has made plans. But any other day she would love too. Well this morning we were chatting on Instant messenger, and i asked her if she had fun last night (i had a feeling she was on date). She said she did have a good time so i asked her if it was a date and she said sort of, This is her exact words "hes not really my type, I dont think" .... Ok im 10 years rusty in the dating world, what the hell is this? I dont know even how to react though my gut is telling me this is trouble. Well, that's a tough one. You've only known each other a short while, so doesn't sound like you're officially 'exclusive' or had any sort of chat, but the fact she stayed over the whole weekend sort of puts the kettle on the fire so to speak. Sounds like although she's enjoying your company, she's not thinking 'relationship' yet. I'm guessing you were 'intimate' if she stayed over, which may require you having a casual chat with her about things and where you stand, since I'm also guessing you are taken with her and not really looking to multi-date yourself?
JustLooking123 Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 You two are not exclusive. She had a date with another man. She probably wanted to see your reaction, which is why she told you it was a date (rather than something more vague). It's early. Just go with it. Feel free to explore other options for yourself. When the time comes, you two can exclusively date, but it sounds too early now.
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