dakotamaiden Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 i like him , he says we cant have sex against his religion before marriage. he says nothing romantic can happen between us. i enjoy his friendship iam find with that. when hes done talking on the phone with me instead of saying goodbye he says i love ya. as a friend right?? you can be very close to a guy and do things without actually having sex ??? and not have romantic feeling but close special feelings?? anyone else going thru something like this???
Author dakotamaiden Posted June 19, 2009 Author Posted June 19, 2009 cathoilc no sex before marrige hes renewing his relationship with god. there are things we can do without him feeling guilty without having sex right????
clv0116 Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 Lot's of variation in individual Catholics. Another interesting question is what he's going to be comfortable doing with his wife. Sometimes a thing like this can be a sign of a serious hangup.
Intricategirl Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 Nothing romantic can happen before marriage? Sorry, but to me, it sounds like he's already in a relationship, and that it's one he's pretty hung up on, and that you are always going to come second to that relationship. I guess I'm saying I wouldn't date him, but that's me.
Jilly Bean Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 Oy. I think when people hug the bible a little too hard, it cuts off all blood flow to the nethers.
boogieboy Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 cathoilc no sex before marrige hes renewing his relationship with god. there are things we can do without him feeling guilty without having sex right???? Obviously you want to get physical. Just cut your losses before you invest too much emotion in this.
Author dakotamaiden Posted June 19, 2009 Author Posted June 19, 2009 Nothing romantic can happen before marriage? Sorry, but to me, it sounds like he's already in a relationship, and that it's one he's pretty hung up on, and that you are always going to come second to that relationship. I guess I'm saying I wouldn't date him, but that's me. he says he cant have sex before marriage . he says i love ya to me. but there nothing romantic. we are close friends. i like him feel close friendship with him so this is okay for me
ruggy Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 Sounds like a nutcase. It seems he'll pick an imaginative object that may or may not be real over you. I'd say run far away. FAST.
BobSacamento Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 Lot's of variation in individual Catholics. Another interesting question is what he's going to be comfortable doing with his wife. Sometimes a thing like this can be a sign of a serious hangup. haha so true. I'm actually Catholic and am in a similar situation. I'm pursuing a very religious person and am fearful she might be a prude. Talk about BORING
boogieboy Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 he says he cant have sex before marriage . he says i love ya to me. but there nothing romantic. we are close friends. i like him feel close friendship with him so this is okay for me Whats the deal, you dont have anyone else to date or hang with that actually thinks like you do? Youd rather deal with no sex?
Author dakotamaiden Posted June 19, 2009 Author Posted June 19, 2009 iam not going to run i understand him. for 7 yrs i thought i was in love with someone but i was wrong. iam going to enjoy his friendship and what ever else we do, if it means fooling around with never doing the complete sex thing . and staying friends. i just wanted some input if anyone else was in a friedship like this. thanks
mortensorchid Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 I went through something like this before. I was with this guy years ago that was a deeply religious man. He had a ton of hang ups, this was only one of them. It was almost hysterical, because the person I am now would not have tolerated someone as needy and self centered as him. He said there would be no sex between us, and when I said "Ok, then we won't have sex anymore" and we did not have it, he DUMPED ME because I wouldn't have sex with him! Trust me, I think you should just move on from the whole situation. Don't let them drag you into their hang ups.
clv0116 Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 haha so true. I'm actually Catholic and am in a similar situation. I'm pursuing a very religious person and am fearful she might be a prude. Talk about BORING I've known cases like this where it turned out to be a serious issue later, "What? Only missionary on Wednesday evening?" sort of deals. A person should have a frank discussion about this, after all, even for religious persons sex INSIDE marriage shouldn't be any sort of taboo and if they can't have THAT conversation they are probably damaged.
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