fiser360 Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 Hey everyone. So my girlfriend and I have been dating for 4 years. We have had the normal ups and downs of a relationship. But a couple of days ago we decided to take a small break to calm things down. We had gotten to the point of just a lot of useless bickering about nonsense. We are starting to talk again and get back into the flow of things but she still isn't ready to resume our dating experience. We spent the day together yesterday and had a great time. But today she seems a little frustrated with me and I was wondering if you guys had any advice on how I might get back together with her. It's only been a week since we started our break. Thanks for the help!
ON MY OWN Posted June 20, 2009 Posted June 20, 2009 Hi Nathan, IMO a break generally creates more of a distance btw 2 ppl. What does she expect to gain from this break? A break increases the chances one of you can meet someone. If you want her back, I would tell her you would be willing to seek couseling or take things at a snails pace and limit your time to seeing eachother so you have that time to miss eachother, give flowers, take her on a picnic, these are ideas, do stuff to renew your love for her. She will then come to realize she means more to you then if you have argued about nonsense and arent doing too much. See where shes at after you try anything like the above mentioned or anything you may come up with and also discuss meeting in the middle somewhere and maybe choosong your battles. I lost a loved one due to the needless arguing and taking a break, not only did we break up, we were engaged and he returned the WEDDING ring. So I am left with an engagement ring that means absolutely nothing and the most painful lesson in life I have ever learned. Not all is my fault, a counselor even told me most of it were his issues however this is someone I love dearly and cannot get back. Even if he came back, he gave me too much drama from all this pain, some mine, some his and I couldnt and hold my head up in front of anyone we knew again. So thats all she wrote. I know I will have another chance at love, however this is a person I planned on growing old with, not only in the physical, but in my mind he was truly already my husband as his kids were calling me mommy, trust me that does not go away, and because of the so called "break" 5 people suffered from it as well as our families and friends who saw us suffer through tears as well as sometimes arguements. Botton line is if you want her, IMO you should save it before its too late. That is coming straight from the mouth of a woman in her early 30's with plenty of personal experience on the infamous "break". I am not a fan of the break in any circumstance, there are always counselors available that are more than willing to do a sliding scale fee if you require it. Best of luck and I hope she comes around! Remember be understanding and sensitive and I am not saying be a doormat, but learn to let the unimportant stuff go, take a deep breath and remember whats truly important, life is too short!!:bunny::bunny:
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