jonm07 Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 I need a ladies opinion on this one (but guys, feel free to give me some input.) I'm going on my first date with a girl I met a couple of weeks ago soon and we really hit it off when we met. She's really into the prince charming type and recently referenced the glass slipper from Cinderella and how much she wants to find her prince charming. How do women feel about a small gift on the first date? I was thinking I'd go shopping today and see if I can find a small ornamental glass slipper. Thanks for your help
hey_beautiful Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 Well, I think small gifts like that would be okay. It's nothing over the top, and to me, it's a sweet gesture.
Kamille Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 I think that's cute! It shows you paid attention to what she was saying and that you want to do things to make her happy. Go for it.
Ruby Slippers Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 I think it's too much on the first date. Third date or so, maybe. Also, are you the Prince Charming type? Giving such a gift will suggest that you want to fill that role.
Author jonm07 Posted June 18, 2009 Author Posted June 18, 2009 I think it's too much on the first date. Third date or so, maybe. Also, are you the Prince Charming type? Giving such a gift will suggest that you want to fill that role. Thanks for the input, I appreciate it. And yes, I am. How about a rose? I don't want to be overbearing or anything, of course. Advice is much appreciated.
Ruby Slippers Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 I'm as sappy romantic as they come, and I wouldn't want any gift on the first date. YOU and your company are the gift. It would suggest to me that he's overcompensating and doesn't think he himself is enough to offer on the first date. Save that stuff for when you've established a connection and want to turn up the heat a bit.
Jester268 Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 It's a good idea, but not on the first date. It WILL scare her off. How about you give her the glass slipper once you two have gotten to know each other better and you really ARE her prince charming. Right now you're just some guy she doesn't know well. What you want to do is a common mistake a lot of guys make. Don't do it. It makes you come off as needy and going to fast.
Author jonm07 Posted June 18, 2009 Author Posted June 18, 2009 I'm as sappy romantic as they come, and I wouldn't want any gift on the first date. YOU and your company are the gift. It would suggest to me that he's overcompensating and doesn't think he himself is enough to offer on the first date. Save that stuff for when you've established a connection and want to turn up the heat a bit. Thanks for the great advice, Ruby. I suppose I'll restrain the urge for the time being .
Author jonm07 Posted June 18, 2009 Author Posted June 18, 2009 It's a good idea, but not on the first date. It WILL scare her off. How about you give her the glass slipper once you two have gotten to know each other better and you really ARE her prince charming. Right now you're just some guy she doesn't know well. What you want to do is a common mistake a lot of guys make. Don't do it. It makes you come off as needy and going to fast. Actually, I know her very well. I met her in a class we were attending for a couple of weekends, we sat next to each other and talked for hours and hours on end. We have the exact same sense of humour, it was pretty easy. I don't know if that changes the situation or not... does it?
Jester268 Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 Actually, I know her very well. I met her in a class we were attending for a couple of weekends, we sat next to each other and talked for hours and hours on end. We have the exact same sense of humour, it was pretty easy. That's fantastic. I'm glad you two have a connection and are willing to take it to the next level; however, you're going on your FIRST date. That means you haven't taken it to the next level. Wait until you're established with her in a romantic sense. If you do things like this too soon you will scare her off. It's a fantastic idea though. And you should do it! Just not right now.
JustLooking123 Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 Am I the only one disturbed by this? She is a grown woman. This is 2009. There is no Prince Charming. She is not Cinderella. Relationships take bilateral work. Hopefully I am overreacting, and this is some innocuous hobby, and not an indication of her actual beliefs.
Ruby Slippers Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 ^ Looks like the OP is perfectly on board with the Prince Charming/Cinderella fantasy. Who are we to begrudge them their ideals?
JustLooking123 Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 ^ Looks like the OP is perfectly on board with the Prince Charming/Cinderella fantasy. Who are we to begrudge them their ideals? It's not about "begrudging their ideas." I'm just making the obvious point that Cinderella is a fairy tale, and if she is expecting real life to work out like that, it may make for some very unrealistic expectations in the course of dating her. I also acknowledged that this may not be the case, and that I might be reading too much into it. <shrug> Sure, the OP does seem on board with buying her a little trinket for the first date, but he didn't really discuss his overall take on the whole real-life Prince Charming idea. Best of luck to them.
Author jonm07 Posted June 19, 2009 Author Posted June 19, 2009 Am I the only one disturbed by this? She is a grown woman. This is 2009. There is no Prince Charming. She is not Cinderella. Relationships take bilateral work. Hopefully I am overreacting, and this is some innocuous hobby, and not an indication of her actual beliefs. I think you read too much into it, Sherlock.
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