jonm07 Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 In my opinion, yes, it is. But everyone's views are different.
angie2443 Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 I think it depends on the type of flirting, the ammount, and who you flirt with. Smiling in a mildly flirty way with some random guy/girl you see when you go out somewhere is very differant than laughing and joking in a flirty manor with the coworker you see on a regular basis. One is highly unlikely to lead to anything, the other just might.
carhill Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 If you wouldn't do it in front of your spouse, don't do it
jonm07 Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 If you wouldn't do it in front of your spouse, don't do it You read my mind. I was about to edit my earlier post and say the same thing.
stuckinoz Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 So if it's done in secret - via email, text messages, facebook etc. then is that crossing the "flirting line?"
carhill Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 Read my post again. Great guideline. Take whatever the method/verbiage/tone is and place it right in front of one's spouse and ask their opinion
angie2443 Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 If you wouldn't do it in front of your spouse, don't do it I agree with this. Also, I have seen men/women flirting with another right in front of their partners. Their partners were obviously embaressed and hurt. It was akward to watch.
stuckinoz Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 Also, I have seen men/women flirting with another right in front of their partners. Their partners were obviously embaressed and hurt. It was akward to watch Sounds like my husband.......In front of me & behind my back ~
carhill Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 Disclosure is a healthy thing. It gives the partner/spouse good information and they can make informed decisions about their relationship and what they'll accept. They are responsible for their feelings and acceptance or rejection of the dynamic.
1Angel Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 Need more information. In my opinion there is a huge difference between hard and soft flirting. Soft flirting could be smiling at someone or complimenting them. Hard flirting would be something like wearing extremely revealing clothing, talking about sex in graphic detail in mixed company, or having your hands on another person in a sexual way.
luvstarved Posted June 20, 2009 Posted June 20, 2009 I think that if the net result of your behavior is that you are investing your sexual/emotional energy elsewhere, to the detriment of your spouse, then it CAN be considered cheating. The definition of flirting IS more or less to intentionally create sexual feelings in the air...so yeah I can see this being cheating...UNLESS your spouse digs it or doesn't care...in the end, if you want to know what constitutes cheating, the appropriate person to ask is your SPOUSE. And, their answer will be right! If you don't like or can't live with their answer then...you need to adjust your thinking or find a different spouse.
Nikki Sahagin Posted June 20, 2009 Posted June 20, 2009 Hmmm that's a tough one to call. My ex considered me a flirtacious person and he said he considered it cheating. It depends on the boundaries of your partner. Some people are 'naturally flirtacious' as in touchy feely, smiley, expressive etc...some with intentions, others without. My mother is very 'flirty' but without intention - my dad despises it. As an earlier poster said, flirting creates a sexual feeling in the air. If you are already in a relationship, there isn't really a 'need' to flirt with anyone else. That said, I myself do it. Maybe to see if the charm is still there, or for the ego boost. But my partners reaction to it really opened my eyes to how it can really hurt someone. I mean to you something can seem harmless, but picture your partner flirting with someone, and it does hurt and string doesn't it? In that case, I would say anything that hurts you're partner is cheating them out of the promise of keeing them happy and loved and secure that you made.
smarterthanbefore Posted June 20, 2009 Posted June 20, 2009 I say yes it is cheating. I have never known anyone to flirt with someone they don't feel is attractive and would not want to sleep with. Why even put yourself in the position for that flirting to become more by doing it in the first place. Besides, to me, flirting with someone else while in a relationship is so wrong. I would be livid if i found out my boyfriend talks flirty with a waitress he feel is hot. I do not flirt while in a relationship, only when i am single and the person i'm flirting with must be single as well. Just my opinion. A lot of affairs start off with "innocent flirting" that became more as soon as the married person's marriage is going through a rough patch.
mental_traveller Posted June 22, 2009 Posted June 22, 2009 No, unless the couple have agreed not to do it with other people.
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