Example 1 Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 hi everyone. Im a little confused. I asked this girl out who i work with most of the week, after we got out of work. She said yes almost immediately. We couldnt schedule a date for any time between now (wednesday) and sunday due to our changing work schedules and her going to "xyz" part of the weekend (which i knew about before i asked her out) I said we'll figure it out by sunday or monday. So we talked for a few minutes, then she asked me to get ices. So we went and I was being myself, we were chatting, but not really flirting much, or at least not much physically (we flirt a bit at work). We got the ices, went back to our job so I could get my car, talked for a little bit. Then I gave her a hug and she said something like "i'll let you know about next week" or something like that. Why im confused is that, should i have been a little more flirty or something while we were hanging out, since i did ask her out not 10 minutes prior. I had not anticipated hanging out with her much right away once asking her out, whether she said yes or no. I have little experience with women, or I should say i can be shy and/or awkward at times, though ive overcome most of my shyness recently, girls included (mostly with flirting, talking was never much of a problem) I analyse my situation a little too much sometimes as well. But i have a great sense of humor, am laid back, and dont generally worry about what other people think of me. So does anyone think she may have lost interest or anything, or am i freaking out for no reason? (the 2 extremes... )
collegekid491 Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 Even if you weren't flirty enough and should have been... what would it help now? People in general are very hard on themselves looking back at what you deem to be a significant moment. The number one problem with this is that you are seeking her approval, the whole reason she accepted was because she's interested in you and not how she can mold you. Just relax, keep the conversation light, and don't force yourself to be flirty unless it fits
lab_brat Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 So does anyone think she may have lost interest or anything, or am i freaking out for no reason? (the 2 extremes... ) No, she didn't lose interest in the following 10 minutes. Yes you are freaking out for no reason. Chill, honeybunch, she agreed, therefore, she likes you. Stop panicking about this, and move on to panicking about the first date Good luck
Author Example 1 Posted June 18, 2009 Author Posted June 18, 2009 thanks guys. i appreciate your comments. i shouldnt be worried, since she said yes, barely before i could finish asking her, which kind of surprised me. i dont know what to do now in terms of trying to set a date for the date. should i wait until sunday or monday to call her? i wont see her at work until at least next week.
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