Confusedalways Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 Do people ever read missed connections on craigslist?! I just had a server at a restaurant who was oh so cute, and I almost left him my number but got too nervous!! And he was definitely flirting with me, not my table. Would it be weird to post a missed connection? Is there anything else to do- short of going back there- to figure this guy out?! ugh.
Jilly Bean Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 Ha! I've never read them, but someone posted a missed connection for me, as a friend saw it and knew it was about me. It kinda creeped me out, to be honest, because this guy was on a flight of mine, and described my toe polish color, the phone conversation I had upon landing (he commented on my voice), etc. If you're interested, go back and talk to her.
Author Confusedalways Posted June 18, 2009 Author Posted June 18, 2009 Ha! I've never read them, but someone posted a missed connection for me, as a friend saw it and knew it was about me. It kinda creeped me out, to be honest, because this guy was on a flight of mine, and described my toe polish color, the phone conversation I had upon landing (he commented on my voice), etc. If you're interested, go back and talk to her. oh that IS creepy!! I was just going to put his name and he knows mine so I figured it'd be okay. Ugh!! There's like over 20 servers a night at this place, I don't know how to just go back and talk to him! So complex.
Jilly Bean Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 Sounds like a big place! I would call during the day and ask if X was working, and then I would go in. If he doesn't wait on you, then slip him your card on the way out. It's not that complex, really. Go for it!
Lucky_One Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 Yep - since you know his name, call and find out if he's on that evening shift. You could even be ball-sy and ask if you could be seated in his section when you go in, but I don't know if I would have the guts for that! And just go with one friend, and tell her the deal prior to, so that she can slip off to the restroom when he brings your check - and you can slip him your number! I have read Missed Connections about three times in 2 years, out of curiousity when i go there (CL tends to creep me out), so I don't know if he would ever get it or not.
boogieboy Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 Its not complex, its quite easy- youre just afraid of rejection. Thats why you wanna do it the easy way on craigs list. When you take no risk, you get NOTHING. Youre putting too much expectations on it, its not that big a deal to say "hi". Go back to the restaurant and say something. Thats the only thing to do, or you'll just wonder forever.
Lucky_One Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 You know they work for tips.....right? I know that waitstaff work for tips. But I also know when a man is interested in me. I suspect OP does, too!
Cherished Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 I hate to say it, I'm with Bob in Sacramento on this one. If the guy was truly interested in more than flirting, he wouldn't have let you go without making a move and getting your number. I know people are just going to say "that would be unprofessional, he probably can't do that as an employee of the restaurant..." YES, he can...and he would have done so if he was interested.
Author Confusedalways Posted June 18, 2009 Author Posted June 18, 2009 Yes, I know a waitstaff is working for tips. In fact, that's why I didn't leave the number. My friends told me to and I said 'it's his job' then all of them explained thoroughly in the car that he was very, very interested. Then again, all of them could be wrong and I could be thinking about nothing!
gopher Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 I've written some things on missed connections on CL about an ex-gf I'm sorry I let slip away. My goal wasn't for her to see it, but just as a way for me to vent. I say go for it and call their asking when he works...
Jester268 Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 My ex-girlfriend would always read the missed connections because she felt that some of them were cute. I left her one or two missed connections just to play around with her. The odds of it actually working with a stranger are a lot slimmer. It's worth a shot, but I would say you should go back there and talk to him. Just be direct and let him know you're interested. Nothing is more sexy than a confident woman who knows what she wants.
Cherished Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 Yup, friends will get giddy and urge you to do stuff like that (give out numbers). Do not go asking for his work schedule because they will not give it to you for fear you are a creepo stalker. Why should they give some random person out there his work schedule? Best to leave this one be. He was flirting. That was it. Yes, I know a waitstaff is working for tips. In fact, that's why I didn't leave the number. My friends told me to and I said 'it's his job' then all of them explained thoroughly in the car that he was very, very interested. Then again, all of them could be wrong and I could be thinking about nothing!
BCCA Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 You know they work for tips.....right? Was thinking the same thing. I flirted up any girls I could tell were interested when I was waiting tables in high school/college, but if I was actually interested, I would get a number. Guys know this already, but the waiter/waitress WILL just flirt to get a good tip out of you. Im guessing you tipped more than normal, right?
runner Posted June 20, 2009 Posted June 20, 2009 as a rule, i never take flirting from servers too seriously. i'll flirt back (occasionally) and then forget about it as soon as i'm out the door. the only way i'll know for sure it wasn't just 'service' is when she leaves her name and number on my reciept.
lora22 Posted June 20, 2009 Posted June 20, 2009 1. As a hostess I would never give out information about the waitstaffs' schedules. 2. As a waitress, flirting just made a crappy job more enjoyable...and larger tips were nice too. 3. If you want to see if something is there/could be there, you should become a regular at the restaurant. Or, just go out on a limb and leave your number if you really thought he might be interested. 4. No, I don't read missed connections on CL, and I don't know anyone who does.
Author Confusedalways Posted June 20, 2009 Author Posted June 20, 2009 thanks guys! I'm glad I didn't do anything about it now And no, I left a normal tip-- I may be silly but I'm certainly not dumb.
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