bac Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 I have a question to men if they fake orgasms sometimes. I quess my question is mostly directed to the older men because they have difficulty to have an orgasm more often than younger men. For example, the situation is that you are having a vaginal sex with a condom on. Your female wants you to have an orgasm finally. She maybe even ask you to have an orgasm but you can not do it right now even you try it hard. So you choose to fake an orgasm for her and then you throw the condom into trash like there were sperm. How would you feel if she would get to know that you faked it? And she would tell you that right away. Is it true that if a guy is taking antidepressants he has difficulty to have orgasm and ejaculate?
alphamale Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 How would you feel if she would get to know that you faked it? i wouldn't care, women "fake it" all the time Is it true that if a guy is taking antidepressants he has difficulty to have orgasm and ejaculate? yes
hoping2heal Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 Telling a person to have an orgasm, is about the surest way to prevent them from having an orgasm. So his "female" as she's called in this post, should not be telling him to "have an orgasm". What's this finally talk? "Would you cum already? I'm gonna miss the new tyra!" Can you imagine a man putting pressure on you to "cum finally". Not only would it kill the moment, it would create a mass amount of pressure, and take away the loving feelings of "making love". Creating a situation full of anxiety for a man is not going to help him have an orgasm, and it sure as hell wouldn't be hard to understand why he might resort to faking one. I'm assuming your asking because this relates directly to you, alright OP the best thing you can do for your man if you want him to orgasm more quickly (it is understandable that it might become extremely uncomfortable for you after a long time) is think about him. Think about what he needs, and do what you can take make him feel good, telling a person to "have an orgasm" will just eat at their self esteem and make them feel badly about themselves.
gopher Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 I've faked it in the past while wearing a condom, she never knew...nowadays I'd just say, sorry I can't get there and hopefully the woman would understand it was nothing to do with her.
Author bac Posted June 18, 2009 Author Posted June 18, 2009 I'm assuming your asking because this relates directly to you, alright OP the best thing you can do for your man if you want him to orgasm more quickly (it is understandable that it might become extremely uncomfortable for you after a long time) is think about him. Think about what he needs, and do what you can take make him feel good, telling a person to "have an orgasm" will just eat at their self esteem and make them feel badly about themselves. Thank you. How can I stop the intercourse in a nice way if it is too long ? What can I do to make him feel good and fulfill his needs that possibly can bring him to the orgasm? Typically at that point he already got all possible good stuff from me in a sexual way. Are you a male? I ask that because if you are a male you know this stuff better. I can not do the orgasm on demand for sure. In fact, I told the guy that he faked the orgasm. And I did it just right away after he told me that he had an orgasm. I wonder how he could feel after he heard that?
carhill Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 Firstly, if you are in anything other than a FWB, ONS, or other casual sport f*cking relationship, sex is about intimacy and love, not orgasms. So, don't worry about it. Enjoy the intimacy you share and what comes, comes. Neither a man nor a woman has to have an orgasm every time they're sexual to feel love, loved, and fulfilled. Some people might disagree. The important thing is the *you* and *your partner* agree. Talk with him about it, outside the bedroom. Topically, no, I don't fake orgasms. There are no lies or deceptions from me in the bedroom. If my wife had an orgasm and I didn't, I'd tell her it's OK and I'll get mine 'later'. And I would. That said, every man who can orgasm should know the physiological and psychological 'sure thing' which gets him there, and fast. That could be a fantasy, a position, a toy, whatever. A guaranteed go-to place. Learn it and use it. If meds and/or condoms are impacting his pleasure, try other meds and/or BC/STD controls. Experiment. Don't accept less than one wants. For the woman, knowing such things and knowing what turns her man on besides just being sexual with her and her naked body is important. Learn what turns on his soul and you'll have an orgasmic partner for life
Author bac Posted June 19, 2009 Author Posted June 19, 2009 Do I understand it right that it is physically totally fine for a male do not have an orgasm during intercourse? And they feel fully satisfied with sex without any ejaculation. I thought that it was a little more complex than that.
BobSacamento Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 Like I can't even fathom not being able to have an orgasm. However, one month when I had a real bad sinus infection I was on serious over the counter sinus medication. I think it was Tylenol Severe Sinus Cough and Cold. That stuff messed me up. It made like my entire body numb so of course downstairs was numb as well lol. That's the only time I remember ever having trouble. It was a ****ty month.
gopher Posted June 19, 2009 Posted June 19, 2009 Do I understand it right that it is physically totally fine for a male do not have an orgasm during intercourse? And they feel fully satisfied with sex without any ejaculation. I thought that it was a little more complex than that. Depends on the guy I guess...in my case I know it can happen so I don't sweat it or put pressure on my partner. Some women though feel incomplete if their guy doesn't orgasm, so they'll make the extra effort to make it happen.
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