Lucky555 Posted June 17, 2009 Posted June 17, 2009 Guy A: Backed off and like i said was leaving one line messages. So I took some advise about using just smileys online for my answers. Still no contact. So i contacted him for "casual" conversation and made it really evident that I was losing interested without having to say the words losing interest. VERY NEXT DAY, he contacted me and was "attentive" he didn't want to stop talking it was 2.5 hours via online. He said he has a lot of work to do right now, and i just said that i couldn't imagine living a life like that. then he mentioned oh its only temporary for a couple weeks. Basically i take this as an excuse to not ask me out or start dating. Since i have know him in person for a while he isn't going to say he is "busy" because then he knows i will totally be gone. I love the new attitude i have developed. The guy does have time but i think he is actually financially strapped for money, he just won't say it. He has a brand new expensive car (450), he is not wealthy, new place (500 mo.) so i estimate his bills being a lot! But the thing is i wouldn't mind if he would just like to hang out doing some outdoors activities, but i think money may be an issue here. Evidently the guy is interested just won't take it any further right now and I have developed this hypothesis based on some things he said. Guy B: He contacted me and he seemed interested but he lives at home with his parents and i think this is a problem. he is young like myself. I don't mind that he lives with his parents but i think money is a problem for him too since he just graduated college. I asked him why he single since he asked me and he said he is "waiting". (i dont know what that means except for that he may not be stable right now) However, through our conversation he seemed interested. SO I'm keeping my options open and emotionally backing off from Guy A since i was liking him a bit much and nothing will be happening too soon. I'll casually keep in touch but if another guy is wiling to date and have fun then thats where i will be.
xpaperxcutx Posted June 17, 2009 Posted June 17, 2009 Do any of them ever call you? Because I feel like your so- called internet romances are doomed to fail. Communication is key, and evidently you're merely attached to them online.
torranceshipman Posted June 17, 2009 Posted June 17, 2009 Neither of these guys seem to be going out of their way to express interest - I'd forget about them and find someone else who is better at communicating their interest in you!
Author Lucky555 Posted June 18, 2009 Author Posted June 18, 2009 I have known guy A and have been chatting for awhile. I didn't date while in school because it was too much stress. After school was done and i have free time GUY A seemed to be losing interest (its what i thought). However, just this week he contacted me and seemed interested and said how he has a lot going on right now. (He never asks me out though, so im not delusional and I will take it as nothing changed as in i don't see a date soon) I have not asked anyone out. Guy A does not call me, he is actually better online than on the phone. I have spoke to him before casually. red flags with him: he doesn't suggest a date, he says he has a lot going on with work (probably true, but it also sounds like he doesn't have money to go out with). Guy B. has called and has texted throughout my time at school and just the other day he texted me. i think he was waiting for me to suggest he and I go out. However, I didn't ask him out because I wanted to see if he had a girlfriend first and if we had some stuff in common. This guy had invited me to see him but he lived too far of a distance. Now, he still lives a bit of a distance, I think with his parents. (i don't mind since hes a new grad) So no i don't see any dates anytime soon with either guy. I think partly its my fault for not suggesting we go out and do something. BUT: Guy A says this is the time of the month where he has a lot of stuff to do for work (so i don't want to ask him out-he has a pretty high position at work.....also the fact he told me he hasn't even bought a bed for his place because its a lot of money (so i think he doesn't have money to go out ) GUY B: He said he was not pursuing anyone because he is waiting. I didn't ask for what. He lives a bit far away-I think i would be really lonely because of the distance I don't know if we click because i have never met him I do know at some point i want to meet him though As you all see i am hesitant to initiate.
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