bigworm23 Posted June 17, 2009 Posted June 17, 2009 Well, I must say this is a bit surreal. I used to post here under another name about 5 years ago when my girlfriend dumped me and I was feeling HORRIBLE. A big thank you to all of you who provided words of wisdom and kindess, it really helped in the end. NC works. Thinking about yourself in those times is a must. etc etc. It truly made a difference. Fast forward 5 years....I'd been dating a girl for 3 years, we recently broke things off...It was more my decision than hers. It's not that I don't love her, I really do...it's just that I'm not sure I can put up with the fighting and arguing and all that nonsense anymore. Its such a tough situation..to top things off, we both live together, and neither can move out at the present. 5 years ago when I got dumped, I never thought the dumper could feel as bad as the dumpee....Well, I was wrong. The feelings are definitely different this time around being that I initiated the breakup...but they are equally painful. Can anyone provide some more words of wisdom or encouragment to help me deal with yet another situation I've found myself in? I appreciate it guys.
LisaUk Posted June 17, 2009 Posted June 17, 2009 Hi, I'm sorry as the dumpee I cannot offer any advice, other than have you really tried to work things out? Clearly I say this from my viewpoint, as my ex gave me no chance to resolve his issues, that I didn't even know existed until after he was gone, he just walked away from our 18 year relationship and wedding latter this year. All I can say is be sure you have really tried to try and resolve things and be certain it is what you want if you go through with it, don't mess with her head and give false hope. I'm sorry that I cannot offer any help with the emotions you are experiencing, I've never dumped anyone or been dumped before for that matter!
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