sunnyjohn Posted June 17, 2009 Posted June 17, 2009 Hi, I m an Indian staying in Singapore. I met one Chinese girl online around 2 years back. Since day one, we were constantly chatting every day untill last month. Last year we fell in love with each other. We were so happy then i asked her to prepare for GMAT. She joined some coaching classes where she met some new guys, who are very nice to her. All this happened around one month back. She stopped interacting with me and i was getting more and more angry. I thought there is some other guy in the picture. When i told her about my feeling Initially she tried to convince me that there is no other guy in her life and She is very busy lately because of work and exam preparation. I was so angry and did not listen to her. After one month of fight, She finally broke off with me. I am feeling guilty , I accept that i messed up everything. She might be really busy. In last two years we never got a chance to meet each other. I have said sorry to her so many times.But she is very stubborn and truly Capricorn. After so many days, I sms her last night "Hi ******,Long time to interaction. Lots of H1N1 going on. Just want to check my friend's health. Are u all right?" She replied with in 10 seconds. "Yeah, i am still alive. Thanks.." What do i conclude from it..? I am just confuse..what should i do now?
solo_flyer Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 I am speculating here. Sounds like she found another guy and doesn't want to tell you about it because she's a big wimp and doesn't have the balls to do you the respect of being up front about it... You say you blame yourself. You sound like you are trying to be overly nice to people, but the side effect turned you into a doormat. A============B========C===D A = as_shole jerk, women are physically attracted to these guys and are genetically predispositioned to want to have their babies D = super-nice friendly doormat guy - always in the friend zone, women are emotionally attracted to these guys B = the "middle ground" C = you I speculate that you slowly shifted into the "friend zone" and then she came across someone who was more manly and she picked him instead. Get into the "middle ground" area if you want a long term relationship, but you'd best forget about this one particular woman.
Author sunnyjohn Posted June 18, 2009 Author Posted June 18, 2009 actually the night when she mailed me everything is finished...during the same day...earlier she sent me an sms...that she needs a quite space...and she will talk with me after her exam...then i asked her...are u dumping me...she said..nothing to do with dumping...I need space...that's all...! but later at night ..i don't know what happened to her...! Few days before all this happened....She was so nice to me...but i fought with her a lot...after that day she suddenly changed her mind...!
mortensorchid Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 This may sound like a stupid question, but have you actually met this woman in real life? I was unable to determine if you had met by your initial post.
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