CannabisSun Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Hey guys. On sat I broke up with this girl that i asked out about 2 weeks ago. We hooked up a couple of times a week and it got kind of far(shirts/bra off). When she broke up with me she said "So are we like boyfriend and girlfriend?" Me being kind of new to dating. "I'd hope to think so why?" "Well I don't really like labels" and im sure you can image how it went from there. Then she says she hooked up with another guy at a party a couple of days before because she didn't know if we were going out.(We weren't very public because i never really saw her during school, but we hung out a lot after school. Almost everyday) She sent me texts say she really liked me and wants to go farther and can't wait to see me again and such. She never said she wanted just physical, she kind of led me on to think we were dating Advice?
BCCA Posted June 17, 2009 Posted June 17, 2009 Tell her you are confused, and wonder what she sees with you. If she doesnt 'like lables', than ask her if you two are exclusive. If she starts hmming and hawing about it, there is your answer. My thoughts? She thinks youre ok, but doesnt want to be your girlfriend. The fact that shes out at parties sleeping with other guys, then TELLING YOU about it speaks volumes.
Author CannabisSun Posted June 17, 2009 Author Posted June 17, 2009 Tell her you are confused, and wonder what she sees with you. If she doesnt 'like lables', than ask her if you two are exclusive. If she starts hmming and hawing about it, there is your answer. My thoughts? She thinks youre ok, but doesnt want to be your girlfriend. The fact that shes out at parties sleeping with other guys, then TELLING YOU about it speaks volumes. During the summer shes going away. I'm working we wont see each other at all. I think she just wanted something quick. She fessed up to what she did with that guy and she said she felt bad. There's this other girl that I connect with really well and I can tell she knows too because we always think the same and say the same things. I talk to her a lot about personal things. But she's going out with this senior (he's going away next year) i might ask her out. I think I can't shake it because i thought it was more than it was. Time will heal i suppose, what do you think?
LisaUk Posted June 17, 2009 Posted June 17, 2009 Hi, can I ask how old you are? Dating as a teenager is always difficult, at that age hormones are raging! Take it from an olden (33). Often people just aren't as emotionally mature as you and she is probably just acting off physical attraction, she hasn't matured enough yet to know how to connect beyond that. Don't take it personally, it's her issue not yours. Keep dating other girls and may be take things slow on the physical front until you are sure that they are emotionally ready for sex as well as physically.
Author CannabisSun Posted June 17, 2009 Author Posted June 17, 2009 Hi, can I ask how old you are? Dating as a teenager is always difficult, at that age hormones are raging! Take it from an olden (33). Often people just aren't as emotionally mature as you and she is probably just acting off physical attraction, she hasn't matured enough yet to know how to connect beyond that. Don't take it personally, it's her issue not yours. Keep dating other girls and may be take things slow on the physical front until you are sure that they are emotionally ready for sex as well as physically. I'm 16 she's 16. I've been told by girls that I'm good looking so that's probably what it was just physical attraction. Listen i have no problem when it comes to just hooking up. But the way she led me on kind of toyed with my emotions, know what i mean?
LisaUk Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 It's ok to explore physical things (just hook up) if that's what both of you want, but remember that emotions are involved on both sides sometimes as well, as you have just found out! Relationships are complicated, without wanting to sound patronising, you will learn this as you get older, loving someone is about more than just the physical side of things. However, at your age it's fine to have fun, but just be careful, both with your physical health and your emotional.
Author CannabisSun Posted June 18, 2009 Author Posted June 18, 2009 Thanks Lisa! I look forward to future dating but next time I hope to get the situation straight (if it's just physical or if it means something). The only cure for girls, is MORE girls :] Time to spit some game.
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