SummerLady Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 I have guy friend that went on 3 dates with a woman and decided after the 3rd date he was not that interested. Plus he met another woman he liked even better. He did not have sex with this woman but they did fool around. The 3 dates took place over 4 weeks and they texted in between seeing each other. He nicely told her he had met someone else and was no longer interested and she continues to email him about once a week. She has sent at least 4 emails to him after he told her very politely he was no longer interested. This woman is 37. He showed me the email he sent as I wanted to see how he turned her down and he was respectful, clear and nice. She just emailed him again last week with her availability. What am I missing here? He asked me if he should say something again to her and I told him not to engage with her just delete the emails. Its like she is trying to convince him he made a mistake. I am getting that fatal attraction vibe. I guess I am shocked due to the age. Anyone here have advice or have this happen. I think he has a stalker on his hands. Thoughts??
torranceshipman Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 I don't think that 4 emails is quite Fatal Attraction territory yet Seriously, dudes do this too....best thing is to just ignore her and she'll get the message and stop contacting him. It's also a bit hard to say without seeing the emails. She might even be saying in her emails 'it'd be cool to stay friends and hang out on that basis', which is kinda cool. I get the feeling girls can be kinda ito this, but dudes usually aren't unless they are still interested in the girl romantically/physically. But obviously if the mails are pages long then yea, there's a problem!
BCCA Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 I was just talking to an old buddy about this the other day. As much as everyone likes to say they just want an honest answer, when you give them one, they rarely accept it as the truth. I went out with a girl ONCE, and told her at the end of the date that I wasnt really feeling it, and we can be friends, but Im not interested in dating her. I was nice, but straightforward; there was no room for interpretations. She texted me everyday, IM'd me at work, and kept asking when we were going to hang out. She tried being sexual, saying she needed someone to keep her company in bed, etc. I stonewalled everything, rarely responded. It took about 2 months of totally ignoring her to get the point across. Just tell your friend to ignore her, and eventually - she'll get the picture!
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