br0kinhart Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 I have had it... If you have read my other posts you would know what is going on but, I really dont have the will or the strength to write it up again. But I broke No Contact after a month and finally found out that she doesnt want me back. Break! Ha! More like "sorry I dont have the heart to break yours completely so Im going to drag this thing out until I drive you completely nuts, you lose your hair, become completely depressed and drained of all self-confidence" Sorry, NEEDED TO VENT! But I have a valid question.... After 2 1/2 years together with someone it is a normal to say we that arent compatible. That we were fantastic in some ways but horrible in others! WTF!? Then why spend 2 1/2 years together and cause me to fall completely in love with you. My heart is broken and I feel like crap. Now she told me she went on a date on Saturday and had a good time... I really feel like breaking down at work right now... this is the worst feeling I have ever had.
amaysngrace Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Sometimes people grow apart and two and a half years is enough time to do it. Maybe you were compatible then but no longer are depending on if one of you grew during that time. Sometimes we grow together and sometimes we grow apart. We grow together with the right people though. The people who grow apart aren't on the same page and are therefore incompatible. Here is the thing though. If you loved her you would have grown with her. Or she with you. So maybe it wasn't love afterall?
Author br0kinhart Posted June 17, 2009 Author Posted June 17, 2009 I think you are right... I met her today at lunch and discovered that she has already dated someone and slept with them this past Saturday... This brought a whole new light to this picture... I would have never expected her to do that.... She really isnt "that kind of girl" or is she?!!?!? Now my view has changed greatly and im almost in a disgusted state... I still feel horrible but the pain will eventually subside.... I pray I find a person much better then her.... I think I deserve it....I want to love and be loved.... I was a sceptic for a long time and this past relationship showed me what life is about... Its soooo hard...
gorgio Posted June 17, 2009 Posted June 17, 2009 Sometimes people grow apart and two and a half years is enough time to do it. Maybe you were compatible then but no longer are depending on if one of you grew during that time. Sometimes we grow together and sometimes we grow apart. We grow together with the right people though. The people who grow apart aren't on the same page and are therefore incompatible. Here is the thing though. If you loved her you would have grown with her. Or she with you. So maybe it wasn't love afterall? I don't think it's always about 'growing'. I think there are other issues there, and now looking back I am know that if I treated her better we would have been a great couple. Maybe I had to grow and realize that :-) so you do have a point, but this breakup is what made me grow I guess.
Author br0kinhart Posted June 17, 2009 Author Posted June 17, 2009 I think we are in the same boat... I had alot going on in my life during this relationship. Was in-between jobs, 2 apartments, change in my daily schedule (work later home late!) I was very unstable, slightly depressed and completely unaware of how I was treating her... I screwed up.... and Im trying to learn from this and become a better person because of it.
LisaUk Posted June 17, 2009 Posted June 17, 2009 My ex said we had never been compatible as the reason for our break up and we had been together for 18 years, go figure!
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