bigbear25 Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Hey everyone I have been dating this girl for about 3 weeks but lately I have been thinking ahead about our future. I will be going off to college while she will still be in high school. I just don't think I will be able to see her much when I do go. I don't want her to fall for me anymore because if I break up with her later, it could be worse. Lately, she has been annoying me complaining about stupid stuff like how I didn't pay enough attention to her when I was on the clock working? (She visited) She did the same thing at my Grad party saying that I didn't pay enough attention to her when I thought I did. This happens about 3 or 4 times a week now and it's getting to me. So I'm lost because I don't want to hurt her but at the same time if I wait, it could be worse. What should I do? How do I explain it to her? Thanks
Bejita463 Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 What should I do? How do I explain it to her? What you should do is up to you, but if you decide to break things off, I think the best approach would be towards the fact that she already feels you do not pay enough attention to her. When you get into college that is only going to get worse. From the brief description you gave, it doesn't much seem like she is prepared to handle that. In that case, it would very likely be better for both of you to not let it get that far. Having said that, perhaps she already knows that your going to college may be the kiss of death for the relationship, and expects more from you during the time you have left. Something worth considering.
MusicChick24 Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Well it's very obvious that you will break up with her, or atleast that's the impression I got. Just bring up the fact that you will be going away to school and she will still be in high school and you fear this could be difficult for you two. If you are going to be close to home this may be more difficult. But you are correct that you should break it off now instead of waiting till later. I had a similar experience in high school, except I was a Junior dating a Freshman and he told me very bluntly that he would date me until I graduated and then he would have to end it with me because of our school differences, because at the time I didn't know how close to home or far from I wanted to go to school. I accpeted his decision and we mutually decided to break up then not too long after.
Author bigbear25 Posted June 16, 2009 Author Posted June 16, 2009 Wow today everything changed. This morning I was texting my sister what I was saying to you guys above and my girl went through my texts and saw it and began to cry. I talked it over with her and I thought everything was fine. Then when i got home, she texted me saying that she just wanted to be friends or take a break. I feel horrible because I hurt her but like at the same time, maybe its best for both of us. She like still kissed me and everything before I took her home too which made it strange. Idk :/
LadyChele Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 If she is going through your phone there is a trust issue there, trust me. Maybe it's best this way.
wuggle Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 There is an old saying "all good things end badly otherwise they wouldn't end at all" (actually think it was Tommy Lee Jones in a movie but not sure ) - maybe just break up with her now, inflict a bit of pain and accept being the 'nasty one' - looks like you're getting fed up with her clinginess anyway and using the going to college thing as an excuse in your own head.
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