True2form Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 I went through a rocky patch with my boyfriend and conveniently at this point my ex was reunited with me at my friend's birthday party. Before that I had ignored him for months because the way he broke up with me was very immature and really really hurt me. However, he's a great friend when we take the time to get on with each other, he really wants to be there for me and I trust him with my life but not my heart. However, he did admit to me that he still wants to be with me and was flirting quite a bit, kept asking me where I stood. I told him that I didn't need him distracting me from my relationship problems which I need to sort out, I did really like him but I need to keep it as friends as long as he's honest and open with me about how he's feeling...he said fine but I don't know if he really took it in. Now I'm back with my friends in my hometown for summer it's hard to avoid him and I'm fine with being friends but the romantic aspect just really gets to me. He keeps saying he's cool being friends but I think he only said that while he still thought he had a chance. Now things are patched up with my boyfriend, he's being very cold towards me and is ignoring me. I texted him saying "Correct me if I'm wrong but in my experience you go quiet for a few days when you're thinking something over. If you've changed your mind about something please let me know as soon as because you know I only really lose my rag when I have to pry something out of you and I really want to remain friends this time no matter what." He has time off from work at the moment, he has no excuse not to be in contact, he promised we'd hang out and go do something but he's gone back to ignoring me. It would be easier just to shrug my shoulders and walk away but we're all part of a bigger friendship group that was easy to maintain from a long distance at uni but now I'm here I can't avoid him if i want to see them. Aaargh! He's such a pillock!!
Bejita463 Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Sounds like a typical vulture to me. There's a lot of those. Of course he is okay with being 'just a friend' when there is a chance he can convince you to leave your boyfriend and drop your panties for him.
TaraMaiden Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 I see it from a different angle here... you told him there's no chance, and that you're not going over old territory with him. He realised you were serious and that you're now back with your BF. So naturally (and I think you've hit the nail on the head) he's backed off, and is licking his wounds... leave him alone. he's hurt and disappointed. Your probing and insistence is twisting the knife. It's unfair. You laid down the rules in the first place. Don't now get pizzy if he's trying to abide by them. Be civil, courteous and be nice. but back off and leave him be. Whaddya want, blood....?
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