True2form Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Some people handle it well and some people don't. I usually steer well clear of it because (as a girl) I find guys who smoke it really do have a flip-switch in their heads and if they make a decision or find something a tiny bit wrong with a relationship they won't wait another second to find out if you can work on it, they just bail! Day 1 "I love you" Day 2 "Err...I don't think this is working." On the other hand, like I said, some guys handle it well one guy I was with was fine, I mean...he'd probably been smoking it so long it just had no effect anymore...though i did notice that if he made a decision about something, that was it he HAD to do it, no buts!! A guy in my class does it every single night but I didn't know for ages because it hasn't had any weird effects, he's just as he always was. Must say, these little starlets are a rarity. In my own experience, it gradually got less fun, made me stare at things and wish I wasn't stoned...and then after I felt emotionless for a couple of days and eventually felt depressed and guilty over nothing. Whatever. What do yoouuuu think?
TaraMaiden Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 My partner is an occasional recreational user. It's rare, and it's not the stronger stuff. But it's not enough to affect him - or me - adversely. If it were to become a problem - I wouldn't hesitate to tell him. And knowing him as I do - he'd pay attention.
missdependant Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Yes. Just like I'd date a recreational drinker. I don't smoke often; can't smoke at the moment. He does. We've been together for 2 years. It's great.
northstar1 Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Some people handle it well and some people don't. I usually steer well clear of it because (as a girl) I find guys who smoke it really do have a flip-switch in their heads and if they make a decision or find something a tiny bit wrong with a relationship they won't wait another second to find out if you can work on it, they just bail! Day 1 "I love you" Day 2 "Err...I don't think this is working." On the other hand, like I said, some guys handle it well one guy I was with was fine, I mean...he'd probably been smoking it so long it just had no effect anymore...though i did notice that if he made a decision about something, that was it he HAD to do it, no buts!! A guy in my class does it every single night but I didn't know for ages because it hasn't had any weird effects, he's just as he always was. Must say, these little starlets are a rarity. In my own experience, it gradually got less fun, made me stare at things and wish I wasn't stoned...and then after I felt emotionless for a couple of days and eventually felt depressed and guilty over nothing. Whatever. What do yoouuuu think? I don't think it's the pot causing the flip to switch. Recreational - I'm not ever sure what that means. Once a month? At concerts or other events? Most who claim to be 'recreational' somehow manage to be doing it several times a week. And in that case, they are doing it to avoid reality, and make decisions.
carhill Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 If it were legal where I lived, I'd evaluate the situation just like any other legal drug. Does it impact the persons life and our existing or potential union in a significant way? Then, proceed. Since it's illegal where I live, the answer would be no.
MusicChick24 Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 No. Recreational using is no different IN MY OPINION as using it everyday. It's a complete deal breaker for me because I don't do it and I don't even hang out with many people who do. It's just my choice.
Trojan John Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Yes. Then again, it's semi-legal over here. Even if it were not, I'd still date them if I liked them. I would not, however, date a daily pot smoker, much less a daily cigarette smoker, or an alcoholic. All things in moderation. Funny though, alcohol and cigarettes do much more harm than marijuana, but they are not nearly as stigmatised.
carhill Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Yes, this is where one has to be careful about making judgements. I've never used drugs, illegal or legal, and never have smoked, but do occasionally drink alcohol. If someone were to make a value judgement of me based on having a couple beers or a few glasses of wine a week, and not putting that into the context of my total life, how would I feel? So, I put the shoe on the other foot. Should I judge them based solely on one aspect of their life? In this case, topically, yes, only because in our locale it is illegal and I could suffer sanctions from their use. That, specifically, to me, is a deal-breaker.
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 No. In my line of work, I can't risk the association. Not to mention that I was told that THC can pass through body fluids (meaning sexually) and if I fail a drug test, I lose my job. If I didn't have to worry about my job, I'm not sure if I'd care, or not. I've never dated any kind of pot-smoker (recreational or otherwise). And then again - I've never really casually dated a pot-smoker, either. Never had the offer. LOL
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 In regards to my previous post, I just want to say - don't jump on me, please. I don't know the ins and outs of pot. I'm just going on what was told to me by a nurse. In addition, I have NEVER tried pot at all. And yet, when I took a piss-test for my last job (not a formal test...I knew the guy giving the test), I had a very light showing (although not a true positive result) for THC...which made no sense to me except that a guy I was sexual with was probably a toker.
Trialbyfire Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 So many people and experts claim that pot isn't addictive and yet, in one thread alone on LS, there were a number of members who were or are addicted to it. I've known people in real life who were also addicted to mj. I think what's telling is regular use and attitude towards chemical crutches. A healthy lifestyle is more important to me for a partner, than someone who believes in a lot of self-indulgence. The less they have to fight themselves to stop doing or not to do unhealthy things to their body, the easier it is for them to be healthy. So...as someone who's in her thirties, no, I wouldn't date a recreational pot user. As a teen and early twenty-something, if it was recreational to the point of once every couple of months, yes, I would have dated them. Maybe I also see pot as something people should mature out of doing.
clv0116 Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 I can't risk the legal implications in my profession, and my family would never accept it. Also, I'd never be able to raise kids in that environment with a good conscience. No.
BCCA Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Wouldnt be a deal breaker, and I would let it slide unless it became a problem. I live in one of the most liberal cities in the world, and a LOT of people smoke a joint here and there, which I dont have a problem with. I would make it known, though, if we got serious that we would NOT be raising children with that stuff in the house, and they had better not dare show up to any family functions and such stoned. Its just respect. I think its funny that so many people have such a problem with it, when alcohol is far worse, and causes far more deaths every year. Everything in moderation. Someone who works 40+ hours a week, pays their bills, and keeps their house relatively clean deserves to unwind. If that means drink a beer or take a hit off the bong, so be it. Needing to relax is one thing, but if you NEED any chemical substance just to be happy and get by, thats an issue.
clv0116 Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 I think its funny that so many people have such a problem with it, when alcohol is far worse, and causes far more deaths every year. A couple shots of Bourbon tonight won't make me vulnerable to arrest and cause me to become unemployable. Breathing smoke is not something a person should do on purpose in my opinion, I won't date a tobacco smoker either. There are two for starters.
Ruby Slippers Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Since I am a recreational pot smoker, yeah, I would. Recreational to me means no more than about once a week on average.
Die Hard Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 I'd never date a woman who smokes pot. I'd be too worried that she were raiding my stash while I'm not home. I can't handle that kind of paranoia.
Star Gazer Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 So...as someone who's in her thirties, no, I wouldn't date a recreational pot user. As a teen and early twenty-something, if it was recreational to the point of once every couple of months, yes, I would have dated them. Maybe I also see pot as something people should mature out of doing. I kinda see it the same way. As I've gotten older, I've had less and less tolerance for recreational drug use, and heavy drinking... whereas when I was younger, it didn't bother me at all.
Cherished Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 No. There are enough people that don't do it at all, like myself, that I've never found myself having to resort to dating them (people who smoke pot). I also am in a profession where it can't be risked. I can drink occasionally, but I am very carefull about driving, and I will get a ride home or pay the $20 for a taxi if I am even close to being tipsy. A mention in the newspaper about an OWI arrest would also affect my job status. I am in a small enough community (50,000 people) where the OWI stats are published in the newspaper weekly. I might not be fired, but I would probably be put on notice. Also I notice that the people who smoke pot are usually broke. You read their myspace/facebook postings and it's all 'Crap, I'm broke! $14 left in my account!" yet somehow they manage to snag some pot.
IcemanJB Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 My ex was . But early on she wanted to know if it bothered me, and all I said was: "I only care if it impacts us in a negative way." Ironically it still drove HER crazy that she did it and I didn't, but that's another issue... I've never touched the stuff in my life, but I'd say at least 50% of my friends have done or do it frequently. I guess since my job doesn't do drug tests, i wouldn't have a problem dating a user as long as it didn't have an impact on us.
thegoodlife Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 I wouldn't. I've never touched the stuff in my life and that is pretty much my one solid rule when it comes to dating people. Pretty much all of my friends and family members do, minus my mom, and I don't care what they do. I only care when it comes to people I choose to date.
DarkestDreams Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 No. Career wise, I wouldn't risk the legal implications that it involves and that's why I don't want to be around people when/if they smoke it. As far as dating is concerned, a guy who smokes pot, regardless of how often, is incredibly off putting for me. Like TBF said, I see it as something that people should grow out of.
missdependant Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 I'd never date a woman who smokes pot. I'd be too worried that she were raiding my stash while I'm not home. I can't handle that kind of paranoia. That's the kind of answer I like to hear!
Citizen Erased Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 No, I would not. Complete deal breaker for me.
stephy Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Some people handle it well and some people don't. I usually steer well clear of it because (as a girl) I find guys who smoke it really do have a flip-switch in their heads and if they make a decision or find something a tiny bit wrong with a relationship they won't wait another second to find out if you can work on it, they just bail! Day 1 "I love you" Day 2 "Err...I don't think this is working." On the other hand, like I said, some guys handle it well one guy I was with was fine, I mean...he'd probably been smoking it so long it just had no effect anymore...though i did notice that if he made a decision about something, that was it he HAD to do it, no buts!! A guy in my class does it every single night but I didn't know for ages because it hasn't had any weird effects, he's just as he always was. Must say, these little starlets are a rarity. In my own experience, it gradually got less fun, made me stare at things and wish I wasn't stoned...and then after I felt emotionless for a couple of days and eventually felt depressed and guilty over nothing. Whatever. What do yoouuuu think? them bailing i do not believe is solely based on the pot smoking.
EddieN Posted June 17, 2009 Posted June 17, 2009 I'd never date a woman who smokes pot. I'd be too worried that she were raiding my stash while I'm not home. I can't handle that kind of paranoia. For people who say they would not date a recreational pot user - would you date a recreational drinker? Probably yes, since mostly everyone is a recreational drinker. There really isn't a difference - alcohol is addictive and can impair your judgment, arguably a lot more than pot can. The only differences are the social meanings attached to each drug.
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