ohwhyme Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 So I haven't been here in a while so here goes. Last summer, I was dumped by this girl and she went crazy and started partying all the time. She got with other guys but did not sleep with them and most of the relationships ended really quickly. So last summer was pretty bad she chose another guy over me as well as ignored me that summer, it was a LDR btw. Her reason was that she knew that she would be with me. She said it doesn't feel the same as before everything (last summer) happened but later on she said it felt a lot better and now I'm just confused. Anyways, she switched to another birth control and because somewhat sane again. So she started talking to me again and getting my attention. I guess I caved in and we bought a plane ticket to see each other. We talked a lot and everything went well then. We spoke 6 months ago, but she wasn't really sure of how she felt and didn't want to ruin the chance of us getting together, it felt like she led me on but I managed to ignore her then. So fastforward till now, we met up in another country for a week because she was on vacation, we had some good sex and I'm staying at her house. It seems that she has gotten really annoyed by me and gets angry with me a lot so I'm not quite sure what to make of it. Like a kiss or a hug could just put her off and we haven't had sex in a long time too. I know she might feel stressed out and stuff since she has school and a lot of other stuff but I feel like all we do is fight and that I'm the only person working on our relationship and she broke up with me?!? Now I fear that I'm regretting even coming over.
Island Girl Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Now I fear that I'm regretting even coming over. Read the whole post (paragraphs would be great next time ) and you should regret seeing her -- except that you got some really great sex out of it. It was a mistake getting back together with her. She obviously views you as a doormat ego booster -- she wants all the attention but when she gets it she sees nothing but what she considers are annoying habits, etc. BTDT and sold the T-shirts at every event. I do not mean to sound blunt and I know I might be but I was one of these girls for quite some time and left many writhing tortured men in my wake. She is immature and has some personal issues that only she can fix. Maybe she will in time - maybe not. But you should not stick around to find out. She will inflict misery on you as long as you let her. Oh. And it has nothing to do with school or pressure etc.
CaliGuy Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Classic case of "Be careful what you wish for..." It didn't work out the first time and it doesn't appear to be working out the second time either. Mainly because neither of you really worked on fixing issues in your lives that contributed to the breakup. See if she is interested in couple's counseling. If not, I'd leave now before things get worse.
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