LadyChele Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Hello, I am new to the site, this is actually my first post here. I was hoping to get some advice. Ok here goes. My friend and roommate set me up with a her ex's friend, after 2 weeks of schedule mishaps we finally get to meet. I felt like it was going great, and he kissed me several times. Well we were unable to exchange phone numbers, which is a long story I won't get into. So, I talk to my roommates ex, and get his phone number and now I am not sure if I should call him or not. Am I over thinking this?
butcher's hook Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 If things went well and you were kissing I can't see one good reason for you not to exchange numbers the night you met. So my advice is NO, do not go out of your way to call him, that's pathetic. If he really wanted to get in touch with you again, there is nothing stopping him from getting your number and he would have. He's not ineterested in seeing you again, move on.
TaraMaiden Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 That's a bit harsh. Just cos a guy doesn't get in touch, he's not interested? he might be shy and thinking the same way she is. Call him. Say 'hi, wanna grab a coffee?' It can't hurt. If he says yes, it could be nice. If he says "no, get lost B*tch" it could be butcher's hook.....
Author LadyChele Posted June 16, 2009 Author Posted June 16, 2009 If things went well and you were kissing I can't see one good reason for you not to exchange numbers the night you met. So my advice is NO, do not go out of your way to call him, that's pathetic. If he really wanted to get in touch with you again, there is nothing stopping him from getting your number and he would have. He's not ineterested in seeing you again, move on. I have to agree I think that is a bit harsh, we were unable to exchange numbers due to circumstances beyond our control, which I do not want to get into.
butcher's hook Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Fine then, if you think it's your place to call him why you getting your knickers in a knot over it? Just call him and you be the one to chase him.
czombie Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 If things went well and you were kissing I can't see one good reason for you not to exchange numbers the night you met. So my advice is NO, do not go out of your way to call him, that's pathetic. If he really wanted to get in touch with you again, there is nothing stopping him from getting your number and he would have. He's not ineterested in seeing you again, move on. Nothing pathetic at all about a girl calling a guy....More girls should be this way.
Author LadyChele Posted June 16, 2009 Author Posted June 16, 2009 Nothing pathetic at all about a girl calling a guy....More girls should be this way. Thanks I may as well call, what's the worst that can happen?
Author LadyChele Posted June 16, 2009 Author Posted June 16, 2009 Fine then' date=' if you think it's your place to call him why you getting your knickers in a knot over it? Just call him and you be the one to chase him.[/quote'] Sorry to have bothered you. I was just trying to get some general thoughts on this as I have not dated in many years.
butcher's hook Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Just cos a guy doesn't get in touch, he's not interested? he might be shy and thinking the same way she is. That's bollocks, a guy is not too "shy" to call a girl after he meets her and is interested. A guy who is interested will get in touch and he will move mountains to see her again if he needs to. If you want to keep fooling yourself by telling yourself men are "too shy" to make the next move then go right ahead but I'll be the first to tell you you are making lame excuses for men that are simply not interested.
butcher's hook Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Sorry to have bothered you. I was just trying to get some general thoughts on this as I have not dated in many years. It's no bother at all, I am trying to spare you from some pain and waste of your valuable time. Shame you see it as me trying to be harsh when I am trying to clue you in to how men really think.
Author LadyChele Posted June 16, 2009 Author Posted June 16, 2009 It's no bother at all' date=' I am trying to spare you from some pain and waste of your valuable time. Shame you see it as me trying to be harsh when I am trying to clue you in to how men really think.[/quote'] Well I am not one to lose days of sleep because I took a chance and it didn't work out thanks for the advice though.
Island Girl Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 call him as TaraMaiden suggested. Ask him to coffee or just have a quick chat. Thank him for the wonderful evening you had and then - Give him your number. Then the ball will be in his court. Remember even if things are going really well -- don't stay on the phone for very long. Good luck. If it doesn't pan out so be it and move on.
Bejita463 Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Shame you see it as me trying to be harsh when I am trying to clue you in to how men really think. It doesn't just come off as harsh. It comes off as cynical and bitter as well. You sound more like you have bones to bury than that you are offering advice to me. /Male. //Don't think the way you are claiming.
Author LadyChele Posted June 16, 2009 Author Posted June 16, 2009 It doesn't just come off as harsh. It comes off as cynical and bitter as well. You sound more like you have bones to bury than that you are offering advice to me. /Male. //Don't think the way you are claiming. Thanks, I agree. For those who are curious I did call him and we are going out again this week
Island Girl Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Thanks, I agree. For those who are curious I did call him and we are going out again this week Oh happy day! Congrats. I hope it continues to be fantastic.
Author LadyChele Posted June 16, 2009 Author Posted June 16, 2009 Oh happy day! Congrats. I hope it continues to be fantastic. We are going dancing
Island Girl Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 We are going dancing So he is a brave courageous man as well!
Author LadyChele Posted June 16, 2009 Author Posted June 16, 2009 So he is a brave courageous man as well! Supposedly he knows how to dance...we shall see.
Island Girl Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Supposedly he knows how to dance...we shall see. That is what I meant about being brave. Let us know how it works out.
Author LadyChele Posted June 16, 2009 Author Posted June 16, 2009 I am looking forward to it, but I need to buy a new dress tomorrow. He called me back and told me where we were going. I am thinking a little black slinky thing
Island Girl Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 I am looking forward to it, but I need to buy a new dress tomorrow. He called me back and told me where we were going. I am thinking a little black slinky thing Blow his socks off kitten.
Author LadyChele Posted June 16, 2009 Author Posted June 16, 2009 Blow his socks off kitten. I just bought a pair of stilettos last week that will be perfect for a night of dancing
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