kimchee Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 I'm 25 and I've been dating a guy (also 25) who has a three year old daughter. I swore that I would never date a man with a kid but the reason why our relationship works is because he puts me before her. That sounds so terrible, I know. He willingly pays a fair amount of child support to the kid's mother, he loves her and spends time with her, but he has admitted that he didn't plan her and never wanted kids so he's not that close to her. He doesn't talk about her alot, he spends more time with me than her (partly because we have a lond-distance relationship), and he has admitted to me that he loves me more than anyone in the world, including his daughter. I mean, at times I totally forget he has a kid. He feels guilty about this and I feel guilty because I simply let it be. But when he is with her, it is obvious that he is totally in love with his daughter. He's not a bad father at all. So my concern is that am I living in a temporary state of having him all to myself because she is so young and they arent really close? When she gets older, will he be forced to give her more of himself? Will I resesnt this shift of attention? What should I expect?
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