barnacle77 Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 It just doesn't make sense, I've only know this young lady for about a month and a half and for some unknown reason I can't get her out of my head, let alone walk away. I'm torn between trying to make things work and running like hell. and even though my head has been telling me to run, I can't seem to walk away. You see I'm 49 yrs old and have been alone most of my adult life. Yes I have friends and all but I haven't been romantically involved with anyone since my last GF ripped my heart out some 25 years ago. I always tell everyone that I prefer to be a bachelor, but the truth is that breakup 25 years ago affected me in such a way that I've always been afraid of being rejected again. That's why this situation is so odd to me. I met this young lady at a Gentleman's club of all places. I go there sometimes just to be able to talk to a woman without fear of being told, go away. Anyrate this young lady approached me and we proceeded to talk for hours that night and even though she was cool I knew she was too young so I had no intentions of persuing her. The fact that she was a stripper didn't bother me at all. As I was leaving that night she asked me for my phone number and made sure I knew her real name. The following weekend I was suppose to race my car up in Mich, however as I was leaving town I accidently hit a curb and bent an axle on my trailer, therefore my trip was over and on Sat night I got a wild hair to go back to this club again to see her. Once again everything was cool and she wanted me to take her to dinner one night during the week and would call me. She called on the following Friday and we spoke for quite a while. Of course she works on Fridays and I told her I would not be at the club that night and that I planned on racing my car locally the next night so that I probably wouldn't be in there then either. She proceeded to call me 6 times in 2 days. I had also told her in previous conversations that I had a set of tires in my garage that would probably fit her car. You see this young lady is 6 month pregnant and working 2 jobs and trying to go to school to be a registered nurse at the same time, giving her the tires was no big deal since they were used and just sitting there going to waste. Well I raced the next day and she called me around 10pm wanting me to come see her, so I did. We talked and made some half baked plans for going out and she was suppose to call me the next day. Well I didn't hear from her again until the following Sunday night. In fact I went to the club she worked at on Sat night and was told that she was sick and wouldn't be there. I planned on leaving but one of her girlfriends approached me and I ended up talking to her for several hours. In that conversation I was referred to as the boyfriend and that she had call the girl in question to make sure she wouldn't be upset if she talked to me for awhile. I tried calling her Sunday at the only number I had for her which was her Mom's celphone, which was one of several phones she had been calling me from. When she called Sunday night we talked for an hour and made dinner plans for Wednesday and I was suppose to call her the day next . Well I called several times but never heard back from her. In fact I didn't hear from her until Thursday when I was leaving for a race in Chicago. She told me that her mom was bi-polar and had disappeared Monday and just came home that day and she had been out looking for her. During that conversation I told her that I was on vacation this week and that we should get together, to which she pulled an aboutface and told me she hadn't really been involved with anyone since her pregnancy and that she didn't have time to deal with me that she needed to focus on her baby. When I asked her about all the things we had talked about doing while in the club she claimed she meant those things then, but this pregnancy had her confused. She also told me about a very abusive relationship she had been in and that this last guy was psycho and she wasn't sure how she was gonna pay for everything she needed for the baby. I tried to tell her that I'm not like those guys and that I don't treat women like that. I also told her that I wouldn't runaway and that if she needed me for anything then I'd be there for her. So I don't know if this is a I don't trust guys thing, or if the pregnancy is the issue or what it is. I've been nothing but nice with this young lady and while I knew better to get involved with her in the first place, I now find myself torn up inside, because while I feel somewhat used and certainly confused, I still wanna build a relationship with her. I can't stand the idea of turning my back on her when I know she needs help, but I hate to get more emotionally involved when she seems to be able to turn it on and off so easily. I'm generally a pretty good judge in character but this time I'm lost, I don't know if she's really just a cold hearted bitch or she really just scared because of the baby. Regardless, no matter how hard I've tried not to, I think about her constantly and I feel like an emotional basket case. I figured it was just me kind of going through a MidLife crisis sinse she is so young, but I can't seem to figure out what to do.
butcher's hook Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Right then, you went from not being involved with anyone for 25 yrs to choosing the worst type of woman who will use you and spit you right out when she is done with you? She was playing you, she has no intentions of dating you she wants your money nothing more. It's clear as water.
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