notagainSadie Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 I don't know what else to do to move on. Am in counselling, have made efforts to widen my social circle. Now she wants coffee. We met a couple of years ago, had an affair and talked about starting a life together. I was married and so was she. After being together once, I called off the physical part, but we both still talked about our feelings and got together often. I felt terrible and guilty during this whole time, but I knew my own marriage had serious problems. Then, she ended her marriage and announced to everyone she was with someone else. And made sure I was the last to know and that I found out through someone else. I was gutted and ended my marriage. While her new partner was travelling and I was separated we got back together for a period of about 6 weeks. I thought she might choose to be with me now that we were both free. But as soon as he was back, I was dumped. So I felt dumped, twice. I tried to move on, but she kept appearing in my life in different ways, dropping by my exs, and sending me photos. I met with her, was enraged, and told her it was all unfair - why didnt she just move on? Since then, I've gone to see a counsellor and am trying to repair my life and have a healthy relationship with my married ex. She still doesnt know about the affair. Now, this person wants to meet for coffee? why? whats the point? Why does she keep trying to get in touch? Its torture for me. Why doesnt she just move on?
mark982 Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 she enjoys playing w/ your head. you got to go totally nc,otherwise she's just gonna keep bothering you.
Recommended Posts