loveslife Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 Okay, so some of you have now heard my musings about this ex I've been talking to. We broke up several years ago due to circumstances, which have now changed. We've been talking and getting closer and closer. Will be seeing him later this week. The thing is, I haven't had sex with anyone other than him since him and I first started having sex when we were together. I've gotten involved with other guys since the break-up but nothing has gotten as far as a sexual relationship - mainly due to me not wanting it to. Not consciously because of this other guy. I can't explain why, I'm not sure. My question is - in your opinion, should I tell him? A part of me thinks it's kinda weird but another part of thinks it's kind of sweet. I'd be interested in other opinions. Knowing me I'll probably tell him at some point if things continue going forward.
alphamale Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 My question is - in your opinion, should I tell him? no Knowing me I'll probably tell him at some point if things continue going forward. thats probably a bad idea, just keep it open and be vague. if you tell him he'll assume you've been "waiting" for him and then you lose the power position and he'll walk all over you like a frenchman crushing grapes for wine
You'reasian Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 My question is - in your opinion, should I tell him? A part of me thinks it's kinda weird but another part of thinks it's kind of sweet. I'd be interested in other opinions. Knowing me I'll probably tell him at some point if things continue going forward. You don't have to tell him unless he asks. If he does, be brief - explain that you dated a little bit and that's all he needs to know upfront.
girl68 Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 Don't tell, but don't lie IF he asks. Which likely he won't.
hitzpink Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 I don't really see the point in telling him. I agree with alphamale that he might think you've been "waiting" for him. I'd find it creepy if, upon our first meeting in several years, one of my exes told me that he hadn't been with anybody since me. If/when you guys start dating again then you could tell him, but other than that I wouldn't.
Author loveslife Posted June 16, 2009 Author Posted June 16, 2009 Okay, thanks guys. I see your point(s). If he ever asks I won't lie but I won't bring it up. It's unlikely something he'd ask, at least not right away. Guys don't really wanna know these things.
alphamale Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Don't tell, but don't lie IF he asks. Which likely he won't. this isn't the military recruiting homosexuals
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