Star Gazer Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 In fact, he wasn't looking for a relationship when we met. It wasn't part of his "healing plan": he wanted to take a year to sort himself out and meet new people as friends. I'm curious... When you heard that, why didn't you run the other way? It's not like you need friends of the opposite sex - you know this.
Author Kamille Posted June 16, 2009 Author Posted June 16, 2009 I'm curious... When you heard that, why didn't you run the other way? It's not like you need friends of the opposite sex - you know this. Good question. We didn't see each other very frequently the first few weeks. This issue came up at the same time as his ex being worried of the damage of the separation on their children (and his guilt over the separation). I did end things, saying this all was way too complicated for me, thanking him for a few wonderful dates. He showed up at my office a week or so later, telling me he wanted us to continue seeing each other and a few other romantic things. I agreed, but told him that if things got complicated, he had to let me go. He said he understood. Things have been running very smoothly since then. We are taking things slow and making sure we're both happy. There's a level in honesty in this relationship that I have never experienced before. That's the reason why I feel safe in this situation. We both know we want what's best for each other and I'm not attached to one perticular outcome just yet. What I do know is that I enjoy having him in my life.
Star Gazer Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 It almost sounds like there's overlap between his relationship with his wife and his relationship with you, K. I'd be very, very careful.
Author Kamille Posted June 16, 2009 Author Posted June 16, 2009 It almost sounds like there's overlap between his relationship with his wife and his relationship with you, K. I'd be very, very careful. No. no overlap. He had just recently moved out, but they had been separated in the same house for a year. The reason we weren't seeing each other a lot at the beginning was because we were both busy and I was trying to figure out whether or not I wanted to get involved. I'm mostly the one who kept things at a slow pace.
Star Gazer Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 In your other thread you said that he commented that he and his wife were/are still trying to figure out their relationship, and then you said: "This would make me the other woman. Now, that's a line I can't cross." What's changed?
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