kitzkatz38 Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 I recently met this guy who's three years older than me at a night club, and we hit it off pretty well dancing, making out, etc. I'm a college senior but he has already graduated and working a pretty nice research job at our Medical School. We have been texting each other constantly since the night we met. He has taken me out to lunch as well as play golf during another afternoon, but he's also had me over at his place for dinner and some cuddling. I've spent the night at his place three times and we've fooled around (not as far as sex but almost). He gives me a kiss goodbye after he drops me off regardless of if I have spent the night or just hung out during the day. This has all happened in a time span of a little over a week. It seems that he's interested in me, but I don't know if he just wants me for the physical action he gets when I spend the night, or if he's generally interested in developing more of a non-physical relationship. We do have interests we want to do outside of cuddling, but I'm afraid that he could just be leading me on and only wanting a physically based relationship with me. How can I find out what he really wants from me? Thanks!
Jilly Bean Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 Here's a thought. How about NOT climbing into bed with him everytime you see him? You met at a club, were making out with him the night you met, and have been physical every date since. So, you are complaining he only wants you for the physical, yet that's all you've been giving him. See the disconnect?
Thornton Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 Tell him things are moving too fast and you want to slow down a little and get to know each other as friends before you get physical. If he vanishes, you know he was only after the physical satisfaction. If he sticks around, allow some time to get to know him as a person and determine his intentions before you get into bed with him.
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