MO3434 Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 so me and my gf just broke up yesterday...and have decided to do the NC thing...We decided mutually it was best to take a break...but I am the one who decided to initiate the NC...it hurts me so much cause i do still love this girl i just need time to realise if she is right for me...How does NC honestly work out? i here its only for the best in the end but why is it so hard right now :(
Exit Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 It is the best thing you can do, trust me. Regardless of what I did wrong DURING my relationship, my biggest regret is that I let myself appear desperate in front of her and acted like an idiot. She probably would have forgiven me for the problems we were having, but probably will always remember the day I broke down in front of her. You just have to realize it makes the most sense, despite the fact that it hurts. You both decided to take a break for a reason, so what would be the point in trying to talk right now? Spend some time on yourself, figure out what you want. If she loves you maybe you'll hear from her first.
Author MO3434 Posted June 15, 2009 Author Posted June 15, 2009 thanks exit...i know this is the best thing...the only thing is that I am the one that broke up with her and I am the one who initiated the NC idea...i dont know why it hurts me when i know this is what i want...i could be walking out on a great thing...the end of our relationship was full of fights...but i also had a lot of fun with her...im currently away from my home state of PA...im living in FL till august and feel lonely and just sad...i just want aug 7th to come so that i can go home...i hope i feel better soon...i know it just takes time this period of my life just completely sucks right now...
Exit Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 Just because it was your idea doesn't mean you aren't going to feel bad about it as well. That is a good sign that you are a human being with properly functioning emotions. If you could walk away and not even care, you'd be a pretty heartless person. As scary as it is when people separate, you have to trust that things will work out. Either you are meant to be split up, or at some point down the road both of you will try to get back together. (Funny how easy it is to say these things about someone elses problems!). It doesn't help if you aren't happy being in FL right now, but you don't want to give her attention just because you are lonely, that would give her false hope. August 7th is a bit far away but maybe when you go home you'll realize you did the right thing. Nothing worth doing is easy.
Author MO3434 Posted June 15, 2009 Author Posted June 15, 2009 is it normal to be rethinking this and wondering if i made the right decision?I still care about her so much...this distance has just changed the relationship into something different...its not that i dont love her it just feels like we are going through the motions...i have been sitting here all day rethinking and rethinking this...i know this is hurting her soooo bad right now...i like cant see my life without her but i also cant see my life with her right now...i feel so sad and confused
Exit Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 Yes that is normal. You have to understand that things don't have to be permanent. If the relationship is stressed right now and you can't see yourself with her, then it's good that you let it go. It doesn't mean that things might not work out at a different time. It's normal to think about it, but you already made your decision, you made that choice for a reason, so just trust yourself. Give it a few days, no reason to try to figure it all out right now.
wow123 Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 All I can tell you is don't wait too long to make your decision. Not many girls will wait around very long. I did this a few years back in a 3 year relationship. I waited a few months and I hurt her so badly that she didn't want to come back. I would give yourself 2 or 3 weeks but not months.
BearPower Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 If you love her so much, then you shouldnt have to figure out what you want, you would be figuring out how to make it work
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