kysgrl Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 ok so here is the run down of this confusion:: i had been dating this guy for 3 years & we broke up in early december cause we were fighting too much. we didnt speak for a month and then i found out i was pregnant! so when i told him about the baby he was excited a lil but a lil disappointed cause we werent together! so we talked and thought we would try to work on things cause of the baby..we tried but it failed once again. so for the past months and months we have been back and forth with eachother getting back together then breaking up. its really taking a toll on me because of the pregnancy..im 7 months now so its really hard for me to deal with all this MYSELF! i have asked him several times if he was seeing anyone else and he has told me no that he isnt even hanging out with girls! he tells me he wants to be with me. so last night he decided to come over and stay the night..of course i give in to him & let him! well we decided to go and get something to eat so as we were driving we started talking about the tickets that he had to pay today and i asked him to look at them. he said they were in the glove box..when i opened it condoms fell out!!!!!! i asked him what the hell is this..he said you know what those are for..i said duh but i know we dont use them so why are they in your car? i thought you werent sleeping/seeing anyone!??? he said im not out there looking for it but if the situation comes up i would! i said are you serious im 7 motnhs pregnant with your baby and you are out there sleeping with other ppl! he said "m just telling you how it is!" i know we arent together but at the same time i feel as if he should have respect for me since im carrying his child! im so tired of this back and forth relationship but its so hard for me to say no to him. when we got back to my house i just told him to leave and i havent talked to him since!!!! i told him the other night if you wanna go out there and sleep with other ppl fine..but dont come to me every other day talking about how you wanna change and be with me!! i wanna be with him soooooo bad..but how can i when im prego and you dont even care!!!! i dont know what to do please helppppp me!!!!!
TaraMaiden Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 If you guys aren't together, you have no right dicating what he does with his life. That's his choice. Providing he steps up to the plate and is responsible for the child and will be a father, then that's all you have a right to request. Anything else is not your business, and if you two aren't over, simply because you're not seeing anyone (understandably) doesn't mean he's barred. Why shouldn't he, if he's no longer with you? You need to let go. There are too many girls out there, pregnant and without any hope of any kind of moral, emotional or financial support from the father. Thank your lucky stars he still cares enough to be around. let him be. And tell him to quit trying to be with you. And you quit trying to be with him. It's NOT going to work. You've proved that, haven't you?
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