NO LIMITS Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 Ok for those that know my story so far here is the next saga, My wife says she wants to leave and she says that she has to get out before she changes her mind and decideds to stay???? So far not too many of our mutual friends have any idea at all that we are in this situation. We are still in the same house and sleeping in the same bed mind you. We have a king size bed and she says it is a big bed as long as I stay on my side she will stay on her side. Well we went to a mutual house party this weekend and I got really loaded, I needed unwind because I have been doing everything, the cleaning, cooking and looking after our 3 children. I really enjoyed myself and on several occasions when I was talking to one of our friends alone, my wife came up to us and joined in on the conversation and she did this all night. Well we go home at the end of the night and go to bed. I being a drunk rolled over and to have sex and she did not push me away, we actually had sex without saying a word to each other. Am I out of my mind here, how can a women have sex with me if she wants nothing to do with me and wants out of this marriage. Is she beginning to have second thoughts
Owl Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 If she's wanting out, and you're wanting to try to recover the marriage...take your time...clearly there's something left there for the two of you to rebuild from.
Cinnamon777 Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Yes... she is having doubts. You need to act now. Get into counseling with her. Can you take her on a long weekend to just spend time together? It doesn't have to be super fancy, just away so you can talk and just focus on one another without coping with kids for a little bit. You absolutely have a chance if you are both willing to work on it. Reach out to her and see what happens... Please keep us posted... and... good luck!
Author NO LIMITS Posted June 17, 2009 Author Posted June 17, 2009 Well we have not discussed anything for over a week now, it is like we are at a stand still. At first that is all we talked about is that she wanted to leave and sell the house separate adn get divorced. Since then she has been acting different and not even mentioning the idea of any of it. She is doing things like weeding the garden, watering the outdoor plants etc. It is like she is planning on staying here yet I am afraid to even bring up the subject right now. Everything I have read and from what people tell me is that I need to plan for my own future without her in it. Now I am not running out the door however I am not wallowing in self pity hoping and praying each day that she decides not to leave me. Deep down I do not want her too of course and I would love for things to work out for us and our children. But I do not want to set myself up for disappointmen either. This weekend is Fathers day and believe it or not, it is usually not that big of a day for me on her part. I am the one who usually gets up with the kids because she wants to sleep in and I make the usual breakfast. So I do not expect anything at all from her this year. So I have an older son who is graduation High School next Tuesday and it is about a 15 hour drive. So I plan on leaving this Saturday to go and see him graduate, he will be coming back with me for a two week visit. I will be gone for about 5 days in total but I need the time away for myself. I have just retired and I am at home alone all day, I do all the cleaning, cooking maintenance etc and I rarely get time to myself and this break will do me good too. Not that I am trying to open her eyes but she has to see what she will be missing when I am gone...
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