akeachi Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 Ok so my ex broke up with me 2 or three months ago i think its (such a good sign as i was counting!) I was completely devastaded could'nt eat couldnt sleep kept waking up always 5am for some reason constantly talked about him i managed a month of NC then we had no choice as we were working a magazine together so hadto that was tough but now its like he wont leave me alone!!! he calls txts pings me every day! even after y.day we had a row as he accused me of dating someone (which im not) ME?!? HE DUMPED ME!!!!He txtxs me this morning asking if i wanna do something tonight! He is now saying the break up was never meant to be permanent for him (cheers for giving me the heads up!) And that i am the one always will be we just need time. I have told him i will absolutely not wait for him as i have too much self respect! its so confusing his behaviour is soooo strange!! Is he insane? i dont know what to do sa obviously i am in a bit of limbo here!! please people men especially OPINIONS!!!! lol PS People who r still hurting its 3 months and im much better u will get there i kn ow i was reading things people saying the same stuff and i was like yehhh right u obviously didnt love ur partner! But TRUST me im not over him but im soooo much better chin up people you are soooo much better than this bull!
TaraMaiden Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 (Ok, first of all try to punctuate more.....) secondly, other than absolute essential business discussion - continue to ignore him and put him in the NC box. He's being childish and actually telling you "I messed up, and I want us to be together again" but if I were you I'd steer clear. he's immature, dishonest with his feelings (trying to gloss over the break, 'hey, it was only temporary anyway'....yeh, right....) and he's yanking your chain and being controlling. break away from him. Don't let him mess with your mind and remember: if he gets under your skin and irritates you - it's because you let him do it. Cut him off and tell him to get lost. Business is business and that's a professional attitude. Romance with him? - Off the planet, let alone the cards.....!
Author akeachi Posted June 15, 2009 Author Posted June 15, 2009 thanks for the advice! Apologies i have dyslexia and when im at work trying to be quick it makes it worse hahaha! Yep, your right! I know what he's doing just hard to imagine someone i loved was capable of being so mean!
TaraMaiden Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 Hey, thanks for the heads up about the dyslexia (why is that word so difficult to spell...?!?) Now we know, we'll cut some slack... At least, I will, as me an' my big mouth brought it up.... Yup. Whatever you do from now on, just put him to the bottom of the pile.
Exit Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 So you don't want him back at all? If you are over it, just ignore him. If part of you wants him back, make him wait for YOU now that he's come back around. If he's genuine about his feelings and he realized he made a mistake, he should have to wait for you. If he's serious, he'll still be interested in a few weeks. Just tell him "I'm enjoying this break we're on, I have a lot of stuff going on right now and I'm not ready to talk right now". See if he backs off for a while, and if he eventually comes back around, maybe he really does want another chance.
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