brock9911 Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 yeah well after breaking up with my ex of 8 years i quickly got with another girl. it was supposed to be a hook up, wound up being a short relationship. so now shes gone on a 2 1/2 month cruise in the mediterranean and than back to college in tennessee. y do i let myself fall for someone i knew was leaving, especially after such a bad break up. i now feel just as bad as when my ex broke up with me. god life sux
TaraMaiden Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 Really? 8 years = short relationship? That's not right.... How can you feel as cut-up about a short relationship as you did after an 8-year one? My guess is it wasn't love. it was a rebound-need..... you need to spend some time on your own and relax, and get re-acquainted with yourself. Find a deep side and cultivate the good stuff, and eliminate the bad stuff. Then, next time something comes along, you'll be in a better position to be a bit freer with how you feel, instead of 'stuck'.....
Ronni_W Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 Nah...not "stupid" -- just hurting and lonely, maybe? Nothing "stupid" about trying to feel better...even if we know it's just gonna be a temporary relief. I would suspect that your current grief has a lot to do with the fact that you never took the time to significantly recover from your long-term relationship -- maybe even it is almost ALL about that one? It wasn't "stupid". It was just doing what you thought, at the time, may be the best thing for you to feel a bit better. As you say, break-ups suck...no need to add to your suffering by beating-up on your psyche and calling yourself horrible names, right? Sending hugs and healing.
Author brock9911 Posted June 15, 2009 Author Posted June 15, 2009 thanx. eh its quite possible my grief is being rehashed now that im alone again.... which sux. the 8 year relationship was going down hill quickly once she cheated on me. i should take time for myself, i just drive myself nuts when im alone. it wouldnt be fair for the new girl either if i had this grief floating over my head. she wouldnt appreciate it.
Recommended Posts