Biggie25x Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 The mornings are the worst. That's when it all hits me. Waking up alone and the thought of being alone. It's good after I start going about my day a little but in the morning I am lost.
KTMRider33 Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 I know what you mean, I usually put the TV or Radio on straight away, just to hear some human voices. It will get easier, I'm trying to train my mind with a bit of 'self talk'
lupa Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 Holy man am I right there with you. I was just on the floor of my game room about 30 minutes ago, in pieces again. I don't know why, it is probably because I dreamed about it last night, woke up in the middle of the night, and only got like 4 hours sleep. All I want to do right now is talk to her, explain that I understand what happened, what went wrong, and that we should take a second chance. I'm such a...something. I don't know. Maybe we should just all talk each morning.
Gunny376 Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 I know when and where I acquired the habit and skill ~ Marine Boot Camp ~ and its served me well ~ mental self discipline ~ of which part is not thinking about something that you dread and hate doing? I use it to this day! Because if you think about it? You won't do it ~ such as jumping out a perfectly good running airplane? Or rappelling down a mountain? LOL! Your legs won't let you do it! They will be like "Ya'll go ahead! We'll be here waiting for you when you get back!" So what you need to start doing is get you @zz up and through on some PT (Physical Training) clothes and go for a work out first thing when you get out of bed. Don't think about it ~ just do it! Start out light, go for a walk, go for a run, go to the gym. Just jump out of bed and thrust yourself out the door. When I was married, the X and I had the biggest fight of out marriage. I told her screw this! I'm going for my run. I was so PO! I was running between three to six miles, but that day, I just kept on running like Forrest Gump. When I got back I was spent, the anger, any and all emotions were just gone. I had achieved a neutral state of mind. I was at peace with the world, the universe. The endorphins had seriously kicked in. I got in my car and retraced my path. I had ran ten miles!!!!! :eek: :eek: The best thing you guys can do? Get to working out! It will improve your mental, emotional, pyschological, and physical health. You work out for an hour or two a day? You won't have any problem sleeping at night. Aerobics, ~ running, walking a mile+, pumps oxygen into your system ~ and will wake you up for the rest of the day. Better than coffee. Anaerobics ~ pumping iron depletes oxygen from your system and will make you tired. So you should do aerobics in the morning and anerobics in the PM You won't feel like doing, its just one of those things that you cannot allow yourself to think about, because if you do? Your own mind will talk you out it! You've just got to thrust yourself out there and do it! Without thinking about it! Three to six months later, you will want to do it. This of a case of action preceding thought!
TrustInYourself Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 The mornings are the worst. That's when it all hits me. Waking up alone and the thought of being alone. It's good after I start going about my day a little but in the morning I am lost. Early morning run. Work out. Lift weights. Get coffee. Turn up the music as you jive hardcore. You are only as lonely as you think you are. Get busy living life.
Cali Chris Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 Hey Biggie, Lupa, KTM, ...Lupa has a point there, maybe we should talk all togther or post in the mornings, doesnt sound half bad! I now were all trying to do things to keep us busy, but letting it out sometimes, I think really helps! Take care guys!
Gunny376 Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 Early morning run. Work out. Lift weights. Get coffee. Turn up the music as you jive hardcore. You are only as lonely as you think you are. Get busy living life.[/QUOTE] That's what I'm talking about!
lupa Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Morning now. ...yeah. I'm gonna go do some pushups and get ready for work. I've been useless there for a while, so maybe it is time to get my head out of my @ss and start rolling again.
Author Biggie25x Posted June 17, 2009 Author Posted June 17, 2009 Yeah, once you get busy it helps you stop thinking about it. I hear what you're saying about the physical activity and I am going to make that a goal of mine. I have just been burning the midnight oil lately and haven't had a chance to breathe. It will get better, I keep telling myself that. I will overcome. One of these days I will wake up and it won't be like part of myself is missing.
lupa Posted June 17, 2009 Posted June 17, 2009 Morning, all. Today is better than yesterday, but I do miss her still. I talked a little about what happened last night in the other thread, but I also did say that it won't make things easier, they will just make more sense. So, it is morning. I'm going to get about the business of getting work, I just thought I'd say hello and tell anyone who is missing theirs right now...maybe this IS for the better. I know that sounds so empty and hollow (I've been saying it to myself for a while, trying to feel better), but even though we don't always see it, I'm sure there is a light somewhere at the end of this tunnel.
Author Biggie25x Posted June 18, 2009 Author Posted June 18, 2009 There is a light at the end of the tunnel. If you promise yourself this won't destroy you eventually you will move on. There is nothing else really to be done but just give it time. You're right you try to feel a little better everyday. Mornings are the toughest though. Mornings where the time when you got ready for the day together. The intimate times that you spent together that were shared and unique. I miss my ex but I will not let it destroy me. I wake up and fall on my knees in pain every morning. BUT I pick my butt up and go on with my day. Until tomorrow....
toddro Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 A lot of what ayou are feeline is guilt, you feel bad for yourself for feeling bad. I know that does not make much sense. This helped me, when you feel this way give yourself five minutes to feel like ****. Its ok, you just went through hell...its ok to feel this. But give it its due, five minutes of your life. After five minutes say to yourself " Ok, I have done the feeling like **** part of my day...I could spend all day like this and it wont change a thing so I should put it on the shelf" Then go do your thing, slowly and with small steps each day. Rebuild yourself.
TrustInYourself Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 Sound advice, Toddro! Every day is another step in the right direction. You're alive! The world keeps turning and it's up to you to go out and make your mark. Stay positive guys, this is not the end, it's just the beginning.
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