michelebaby100 Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 I met this guy about a month ago, and immediately knew something was VERY different. We have spent almost every day together since, and that feeling has only gotten stronger. I am 34, he is 31, so I have been around enough to know that this is different than anything else I've ever experienced. We have both been in serious relationships before. He has expressed the same feelings that I've had, without me ever saying a word. He told me he loves me after the first month, and over the last week or so our talks have gotten very serious. A couple nights ago, he let his whole guard down, and told me that even though he felt weird saying this, he has been thinking about what it would be like to be married to me, have kids with me, and spend the rest of our lives together!! I have already met most of his friends, and will be meeting his family next week. The thing I am confused about is, first, this feels wonderful and perfect, but I think it's really too soon. Second, almost within a day or so after him telling me that he loves me, his actions were a little different. We had been texting like crazy every day, constantly keeping in touch when we weren't together, etc. Then, once he told me he loves me, he was really brief with the texts, and just acted a little different. His words said otherwise, but I'm confused! I DO NOT want to be the clingy girlfriend at all!!! Funny thing is, he told me that he is clingy and would understand if I were the same way. Truth is that I really miss him when we're not together, and I just can't stop thinking about him. Soooo, what is his deal? I want to do this the right way, and not screw things up because I was clingy or ruched into things. My heart says to just go with the flow and do what feels right. My head tells me to back off and let things slow down a bit. What to do??? PLEASE help me, people!!!
Bejita463 Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 I've heard of the relationships that go so fast working, but the majority I am aware of fail. Besides, if it is going to work, what exactly is the rush? I recognize there can be valid reasons for wanting to hurry, but unless you two have some of those reasons, I'd suggest slowing down. Even if you have them, personal experience tells me you should slow down anyway.
Author michelebaby100 Posted June 15, 2009 Author Posted June 15, 2009 Thanks for your response! I kinda feel like it's too fast, as well. We live about an hour away, and we both work a lot and I'm working on my graduate degree also, so the whole thing is crazy. It's like this whirlwind romance, but like I said, my brain is telling me to slow down. I do agree, there is no hurry. Thanks for the advice!!
Bejita463 Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 It's like this whirlwind romance, Exactly. See where you are when those new relationship feelings scale back to something a bit more normal. New relationships, and new loves are definitely a high, but it is important to ensure the feelings are still there after that high.
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