hopesndreams Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 Don't answer his calls, emails, or texts. It's that simple! Now go find someone available, as in single, who will give you unconditional love and be there for you at all times. A healthy relationship is what you need. It's what we all need. Go find one! Have fun!
Owl Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 Get mad. Review all the negatives of this situation, and get righteously p!$$ed off about the whole thing. And while you're mad, take charge for a change. Change your email address...block him from being able to send you anything. Change your IM accounts as well, and block him. Remove him from all of your contact lists on your phone....call your provider, and have his numbers blocked as well. Take ACTIVE measures to prevent him from being able to suck you back in. And then, when you're reeling from what you've done...call out to your best friend, your mom, your sister...anyone who can help and support you through this all. Anyone BUT him... And no matter what....keep those changes in place for AT LEAST 45 days. Then see where things are at. There's your how...it's not easy, but it's also not complicated. All that's stopping you is YOU.
norajane Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 Take ownership of and accept responsibility for every step, every choice, every act that YOU took to get INTO this affair. The more ownership you take, the less helpless you feel! When you take ownership, you realize that this didn't just happen TO you; you were an active participant in making your own choices and getting yourself to where you are right now. And if you accept responsibility for getting yourself into this, and see how you took steps to get into it, then it's much easier to see that you can take steps to get OUT of it. You are not helpless. This is not out of your control. You can take the necessary steps to change your life. You've received good advice on the specific things you need to do. It's your choice whether you do them. It's your responsibility to do them if you really want to detach.
fooled once Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 You do it by realizing you deserve to be #1. you do it by realizing you don't want sloppy seconds. You do it by honoring yourself. You block calls, you block emails. You don't respond and you don't send texts, emails or make calls.
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