Smallville Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 basically i have been dating this girl for about 6 months and ive come to love her like no other. im well aware of what love is and i know that the love we have for each other is something special. i have done everything in my power to make her happy and theres nothing in the world i wouldnt do for her. but like everything else in my life it has to get complicated, you see i dont drink, ( never have) and she does. i broke up with her last night because she had gone down to senior week and i just cant picture the girl i want to marry one of those girls who just get wasted and likes drinking. i want to be happy but i feel as if the view on drinking will have to be something me and my partner share. she says she loves me and she wants me to try and work this out, but why do i see love as, if she loved me she would willingly give it up, rather than have me accept something that hurts me. i told her i want her to find somebody who accepts her drinking and someone she can enjoy those times with. i guess it just hurts because i cant stop thinking about how we had planned out whole lives, i really love this girl i just cant stomach the drinking. her whole family drinks, her family drinks with her, her friends are constant alcoholics, not to mention before we met she got drunk and hooked up with my best friend i mean christ.
boogieboy Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 Im in a toss up here. On one hand Id say you shouldnt try to change someone. If she likes to drink, big deal, let her. Eventually she might grow out of it. (maybe not if her family is a bunch of drinkers) But on the other hand, you wanna find a girl instead that doesnt need to go to a vacation to drink for fun. Im not a drink for fun guy, so I couldnt share that with a girl like that either. If you can find another girl, and obviously you will have to, maybe you did make the right decision.
Exit Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 If it's that big of an issue to you than you did the right thing. If you find a personality trait about your partner that you can't get along with, it's good to admit it. Trying to change her would just lead to arguments and breaking up anyway.
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