Author marty7 Posted June 15, 2009 Author Posted June 15, 2009 in terms of my prior and current posts, i agreed to work things out with the mother of my child. we are in counseling. however, she lies to the counselor about her "good" health which is not so great. she lies to the dr about not having uti symptoms (i think she contaminates the piss jar, but i have no proof), but now has a uti (is'nt this disloyal to her baby...not looking out for her health?). these are new developments, making me think things will not work out with her over the long run. i tried working things out with her since the last post. but trust is the most important thing in a relationship...and i do not have it. i am occused of being a worried wart and commitment-phone and this might be true, but i feel somewhat justified in this case
Stockalone Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 SB, appreciate your frank input Your ex is four months pregnant. How on earth is it possible that you haven't gone with her to one of the appointments and asked the doctors the questions you have about the risks involved in this pregnancy? The way you have talked about the pregnancy so far, it sounds like you are simply looking for an easy way out. Maybe even hoping that there is something wrong with the baby because your ex might get an abortion if that is the case.
Author marty7 Posted June 15, 2009 Author Posted June 15, 2009 SB, i know i sound inconsistent as i have not laid out the chronology of events. we agreed to get pregnant....but that was before i broke up with her. she tricked me into pregnancy after i broke up with her. but i take responsibility for sleeping with her...she did not force me. I am concerned about my health as being in a bad marriage will cause me health problems. i am already not sleeping well.
AlektraClementine Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 I wish your pregnant girlfriend were posting on loveshack. She's the one who needs some advice. I don't know what to tell you except - Stick with the counseling. Individual, not couples.
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 she tricked me into pregnancy after i broke up with her *snort* You do realize how babies are made, right? You do realize that with EVERY sexual act that involves the penis anywhere near the vulva that there's a risk of pregnancy, right? I see no trick, here. But that was pretty funny. If you 100% did not want a baby with her (even subconsciously) then maybe you shouldn't have slept with her. As for damage caused to her brain because of the cord. Hello? That's not genetic. That's like you getting in a car accident, being paralyzed from the neck down, and then saying that it can be passed onto your child. Get informed. God, I'm starting to feel bad for this girl.
sb129 Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 in terms of my prior and current posts, i agreed to work things out with the mother of my child. we are in counseling. however, she lies to the counselor about her "good" health which is not so great. she lies to the dr about not having uti symptoms (i think she contaminates the piss jar, but i have no proof), but now has a uti (is'nt this disloyal to her baby...not looking out for her health?). these are new developments, making me think things will not work out with her over the long run. Oh come one marty you are clutching at straws here. I don't buy most of what you say above for a second. the one thing I do agree with is the long term success of your R with this woman doesn't look good, but not for the reasons you state. I agree with Stockalone- why aren't you going with her to the doctor or midwife and asking them these questions yourself instead of brooding over them and inflating them to be more of a big deal than they need to be? You do seem to be looking for a way out, and it reads like you almost hope that there is something wrong with the baby so you can a) push to get rid of it and b) say "I told you so" to its mother. Why would any mother to be "contaminate the piss jar"???? Has it not occurred to you that perhaps SHE is ALSO concerned about the wellbeing of her unborn child? She is carrying the baby after all. She actually might want the baby to be healthy herself. As a health professional myself, I would say a UTI and a very mild case of CP at birth (you still haven't expanded on that) does = relatively good health, certainly not the kind of health that would contraindicate a normal pregnancy. As for being disloyal to the baby, you don't purposely go out and get a UTI. There are a hundred reasons why the UTI may have occurred, all of them innocent. ONE reason for a UTI is increased sexual contact, so there coudl be a possibility YOU could be at fault if thats the case. Didn't think of that, did you? I had very low white blood cells for three months at the beginning of my pregnancy. There wasn't an explanation, and there isn't alot you can do about it. I did contract a rather nasty virus several years ago that made the doctors think I had leukemia, but I was cleared of that. I am in otherwise excellent health, and would still say so to anyone who asked. Does that make me "disloyal to my baby"???? :rolleyes: PS- cell count is totally normal now, and baby is fine. Marty you seriously need to grow up.
prettybaby Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 Is Marty guy for real? Tell me this is a joke UTI's are very common during pregnancy. In fact, my mother had 2 while expecting me. Plenty of women have them while pregnant and have healthy babies. Same about the umbilical cord; do you know how many babies are born that way? It's a ridiculously common occurance. Come on, this guy can't be real, right?
BlueEyedGirl Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 Marty, Based on what you have written in this thread, you contaminate the planet Earth.
hoping2heal Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 Marty this is ridiculous. I have a friend who chose to have breast reduction surgery, knowing because of what they planned to do she would never be able to breast feed, she's lying to her fiance about that. She also has health problems that she hasn't been completely forth coming about, a few miscarriages he doesn't know ever happened, and now it looks like she will not be able to concieve children she can carry to term at all, and she fakes pregnancy scares as a means to make him think she's able to carry. she won't tell him the truth about that either. THAT would be what I would call harmful withholding of information regarding pregnancy etc. But this piddly crap you're bringing up? Get real.
Bejita463 Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 she fakes pregnancy scares as a means to make him think she's able to carry. She sounds like a real winner.
missdependant Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 Good god.. I'd have to agree with JellyBean and say you are, sir are disgusting. A real piece of work! Chronic UTI's? Seriously? Give me a fu**ing break. That's HARDLY a health issue in comparison to the actual serious illnesses like rheumatoid arthritis, diabetes, prior miscarriages (things doctors ACTUALLY look for).. there are way more problems out there. I HOPE this woman sees the light and leaves your sorry ass behind. She's LYING about her good health?? She simply didn't mention things that are MINOR health concerns. The woman seems pretty damn healthy to me if the only issues with her are UTI's. As for the Cerebral Palsy.. it can happen to ANYONE. IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HER HEALTH! My advice to you is that you get a fu**ing education before you go around impregnating women. I feel very sorry for your girlfriend, and I WISH I could offer HER advice instead of you! I'd tell her to kick your ass to the curb!
clv0116 Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 I love topics like this thread. It makes everything that's ever gone wrong in my life look minor and it makes me look like some sort of relationship wizard. Sort of like watching 'Cops' once in a while; you realize your life isn't even near jumping off the tracks.
Author marty7 Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 Hello, I just re-logged onto the site and wanted to close out this old thread. I have a very healthy young son, and I live with the mom . Her (the mom)physical and mental health issues are serious, as she cannot take of the child. I clothe him, diaper him, get up in the middle of the night, get him ready for bed, take him to daycare, etc. i do approx 95% of the labor work, although she can financially help. I was demonized on this thread, as i did not explain the situation well and was very panicky then. Regardless, I am concerned for my health(as friends/family are) as the woman i live with is a narcissist and has borderline personality disorder. She would probably kill me (poison) if i were to leave, but i will die of a slow death by staying in the relationship. I will post the issue on another thread. marty
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Hello, I just re-logged onto the site and wanted to close out this old thread. I have a very healthy young son, and I live with the mom . Her (the mom)physical and mental health issues are serious, as she cannot take of the child. I clothe him, diaper him, get up in the middle of the night, get him ready for bed, take him to daycare, etc. i do approx 95% of the labor work, although she can financially help. I was demonized on this thread, as i did not explain the situation well and was very panicky then. Regardless, I am concerned for my health(as friends/family are) as the woman i live with is a narcissist and has borderline personality disorder. She would probably kill me (poison) if i were to leave, but i will die of a slow death by staying in the relationship. I will post the issue on another thread. marty How do you know she would kill you by poison? There are so many other ways to kill someone
Author marty7 Posted February 12, 2013 Author Posted February 12, 2013 She is not physically strong enough to kill me by other means than poison...or contaminating my food/drink. even though she is smart enough to know she should not do this (or can get away with it), she has bpd and will act on emotion if she feels i will leave.
strawberryshortstack Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 Hello, I just re-logged onto the site and wanted to close out this old thread. I have a very healthy young son, and I live with the mom . Her (the mom)physical and mental health issues are serious, as she cannot take of the child. I clothe him, diaper him, get up in the middle of the night, get him ready for bed, take him to daycare, etc. i do approx 95% of the labor work, although she can financially help. I was demonized on this thread, as i did not explain the situation well and was very panicky then. Regardless, I am concerned for my health(as friends/family are) as the woman i live with is a narcissist and has borderline personality disorder. She would probably kill me (poison) if i were to leave, but i will die of a slow death by staying in the relationship. I will post the issue on another thread. marty That poor woman. I don't think she's the narcissistic one in this relationship.
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 12, 2013 Posted February 12, 2013 She is not physically strong enough to kill me by other means than poison...or contaminating my food/drink. even though she is smart enough to know she should not do this (or can get away with it), she has bpd and will act on emotion if she feels i will leave. You seem paranoid... 1
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