Lucky555 Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 GUY 1: This guy that had been in contact with me. one line sentences and never asking me out just repeats the same old stuff. Frankly its week after week. So i posted on here and people have agreed with me that he was just doing it for attention. Really he initiates and flirts but never seeks more. he backs off and then talks and does this repeatedly. Been going on for a couple months!! not days MONTHS! He flirts but never pursues more to ask me out! I have known him for a long time and I like him. I seriously wanted to date him. So I'm not expecting anything from this guy. Now there is a NEW GUY: I sent him a message wishing him a happy graduation, he didn't respond for a few days and then he texted me. He has my number from awhile ago but we were in different states! He has asked me if I have a boyfriend and I said no. He said he thought I did but i confirmed its a NO! So, I wouldn't mind going on a date and I need to slow myself down because I was way to excited to hear from him! He is attractive but i have never met him in person. 1. Do I just keep in contact with both guys now? 2. should I ignore the guy that won't ask me out and quite frankly he is an attention getter. Its not fair he initiates and then it seems like he leads me on! I dont know though. just nothing is happening. 3. YOU TELL ME!
Trialbyfire Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 Keep talking to both of them. Since you haven't even dated either one yet, they both might be a bust. Don't limit yourself while dating.
xpaperxcutx Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 Eh, both of them don't really sound all that dateable. Continue talking to them but don't get your expectations up about getting a date or developing emotional attachments.
Author Lucky555 Posted June 15, 2009 Author Posted June 15, 2009 Keep talking to both of them. Since you haven't even dated either one yet, they both might be a bust. Don't limit yourself while dating. well i must say my facebook shows all the people I talk to. The first guy uses my facebook and the second guy can view everything written. (BIG TROUBLE there) The second guy seems to be more interested in me. The first guy flirts but isn't even saying if he wants to pursue me or anything. Guy 2 is more serious sounding, like more so seeking something more than casual conversation. But I will keep contact with both and keep the first guy in a casual state....but as soon as the second guy starts pursuing me more I know they will BOTH know what is going on. I have never been in this situation before. i have dated more than one guy but i have never had them both have my facebook at the same time. As u see online stuff can interfere.
Trialbyfire Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 I wouldn't worry about it. Why not be open about multi-dating? If they can't handle it, they'll walk away, which at this point, is no loss at all.
xpaperxcutx Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 I wouldn't worry about it. Why not be open about multi-dating? If they can't handle it, they'll walk away, which at this point, is no loss at all. She's not really dating either of them. She doesn't need to disclose any of her dating info until she's asked or she felt in a position to be honest because commitment came into play. Lucky, you can set your FB to private so that certain people or friends cannot read the messages that are exchanged.
sb129 Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 My head hurts just reading the OP! Being available 24-7 online certainly seems to have its down points.
Trialbyfire Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 She's not really dating either of them. She doesn't need to disclose any of her dating info until she's asked or she felt in a position to be honest because commitment came into play. Lucky, you can set your FB to private so that certain people or friends cannot read the messages that are exchanged.She's disclosing nothing by leaving her FB open. Why hide the exchanges? I wouldn't bother.
xpaperxcutx Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 She's disclosing nothing by leaving her FB open. Why hide the exchanges? I wouldn't bother. Point taken. Lucky if you have to flirt with two people at once, start writing to their inboxes as opposed to posting on their walls.
Trialbyfire Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 I disagree again. It's the law of supply and demand, and human nature. Use it.
Author Lucky555 Posted June 15, 2009 Author Posted June 15, 2009 yea i would like to stay open on my facebook. I don't have anything to hide. Its only the second guy who has asked me if I have a boyfriend. It was the first time i have heard from him in a long time because I had initiated conversation via online. i am not available online a lot people just leave messages and i respond and such. both guys have my number and the second guy actually texts. which i prefer at this point. I would go out on a date with him. So I will keep it CASUAL between both. But guy 2 seems to be in more pursuit just by the conversations we are having.
xpaperxcutx Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 Then date guy 2. But then, we're back at square 1, neither has asked you out yet. So I suggest you not have too high of an expectation for either.
Author Lucky555 Posted June 15, 2009 Author Posted June 15, 2009 right i don't have high expectations for either. I actually have become more "attached" to guy 1 because we get along so well and I know him. However, nothing is happening. Its like he just wants to have me "around" Guy 2 i just have began talking to him. Emotionally I feel as though I had something with guy 1 and its really taking me a lot to get chatting with guy 2. I got semi attached ahhhhh. but when i was talking to guy 2 I was really excited but i need to calm down.
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