Peter_pan Posted June 14, 2009 Posted June 14, 2009 would like to write this before i sleep and ask what peoples opinions are on this. been meeting a girl (mainly out when its a night out and she goes out with mates as do i, and we meet up) stayed at her house one time, didn't sleep together. Been txting each other a lot, and there are lots of mind games, short txts on her behalf etc and sometimes jus comes across as cold or as if she isnt interested. Told her one time i like her and id like to be with her if she felt the same. she said she liked me to but she dosnt no what she wants and is "difficult" then one night she brought it up again and said she wanted not to rush things if it didn't feel right, and see where it goes. and we planned a date which is coming up. when im out she acts like im her bf. she tells her friends who i am and one said, oh your so and so, ive lots about you... The other night I saw her, getting lots of attention off other guys ( she looks very hot ) then later on she came over to me and we kissed each other straight away and it was great. then she left me a message in the morning on myspace which was just kisses. and she txt me asking if i had a good night and am i ok. i dont know why but something feels like im being played or strung along. or maybe she just dosnt know how she feels. either way i feel that after our date if things havnt progressed or look like there going to then i guess i shall have to move on and forget it. Majority of my friends tell me i shouldnt bother and i can do better or, she isnt worth it. but i like her. so here i am
kitzkatz38 Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 From what you have mentioned about her, it seems that she is definitely interested in you if she talks to her other friends about you. I honestly think girls would be much much less inclined to be players than guys are. I'm girl sort of feeling in this similar situation where I've made out with a guy numerous times and hung out with him plenty. I would almost consider him my bf except that I'm afraid he could be playing me as well which is why we're not in a relationship. Since you are the guy, you definitely have more of the authority in this situation to be the one asking if she's interested in a relationship with you (if that's what you want), and for some reason if she declines then she probably is playing you to begin with, but it seems she's interested so make the move and ask her to be yours. That'll incline her to fully commit to you and not seem like she's playing around if she's serious.
Author Peter_pan Posted June 16, 2009 Author Posted June 16, 2009 thanks for that kitzkat, should i ask her the "ultimatum" before or after the date? you say Since you are the guy, you definitely have more of the authority in this situation to be the one asking if she's interested in a relationship with you (if that's what you want), and for some reason if she declines then she probably is playing you to begin with, but it seems she's interested so make the move and ask her to be yours. That'll incline her to fully commit to you and not seem like she's playing around if she's serious. well i did ask her to be mine, but she said she wasnt sure what she wants and she told me she is "difficult", in hind sight that was very early on and i hadnt really seen her that much but she likes me and wants to see what happens and not to rush if it dosnt feel right. so yeah i do want a relationship with her but it seems unattainable. ive asked her to come round mine and watch a film or something and she agreed. but i dont know if she will follow it through. i dont know how to go about this. wait for date then ask her same evening after the date or ask her before the date
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