Sianna Posted June 14, 2009 Posted June 14, 2009 I met a guy only a couple nights ago, through a friend. She is "talking" to this guy and we hung out with him and a few of his friends on Friday night. I ended up hitting it off with one of the friends. On Friday we went to a bar and than to a casino and were there until the early hours of the morning. It didn't go past him and I just talking that night. I ended up going home and we didn't exchange numbers. He seemed pretty shy. And I wanted him to ask me, not me ask him. He also lives over an hour away, so he was only in town this weekend. But than last night my friend and I went out again, and they ended up coming out. Well I ended up getting VERY drunk. He also had alot to drink. I think I was pretty forward and made it clear I was interested, so he kissed me. We all ended up going back to my friend's date's place, after leaving the bar. I feel so guilty and I don't remember too much, but we ended up being intimate. I woke up this morning, and totally forgot where I was for a minute and than realized what happened. I felt really guilty and thought "god he must think I sleep around". He was still sleeping, so I snuck out of there, and went home, I didn't even say bye. Than I felt guilty for not saying bye. Ugh! So I get home and around 10, he calls me. I got excited thinking maybe I didn't screw it up. But as it turns out, he left his wallet in my car and was calling to see if he could come get it. I was going out anyway so I told him I would bring it by. He was going to be going back home over an hour away. I brought it to him and I apologized for leaving like I did. I told him I really wasn't feeling well physically which is why I left. He said "yeah you weren't the only one who had alot to drink though" and laughed. He than gave me a hug and said "call me sometime" I said "you have my number too" said bye and left. I texted him a few hours ago, saying I did have good time. He didn't respond... kinda bummed about that. This isn't the norm for me, to have sex with a guy, I just met. I feel like I totally blew any chances of anything happening between us. I would be interested in seeing him again, but I have no clue what he thinks.. Would he tell me to call him sometime, if he wasn't interested? Was he just saying that to be nice? My friend was going to try to "nose around" to the guy she is seeing, to find out what his friend thinks of me... Did I screw this up?
Jilly Bean Posted June 14, 2009 Posted June 14, 2009 It was only a ONS. No, I don't think he's interested. Telling you to "call him sometime" is a huge blowoff. Don't text him again, and don't call him again.
Author Sianna Posted June 14, 2009 Author Posted June 14, 2009 It was only a ONS. No, I don't think he's interested. Telling you to "call him sometime" is a huge blowoff. Don't text him again, and don't call him again. Really? wow. I was hoping that was his way of putting the power in my hands. I know "I'll call you" from a guy is usually a blow off but I was hoping this was different. This guy isn't a player though. He is very shy and reserved.
hitzpink Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 I disagree, I don't think he was necessarily blowing you off. It's possible, sure, but telling you to call him sometime is NOT a huge blow off. What did you say in the text you sent him? It may not have been something that he felt the need to respond to, or he may not have gotten it right away, or he's one of those people who waits forever before randomly replying. (I've dated some guys with REALLY strange texting habits!) I think you should give him a couple days and then call him or send him a chatty text. Make sure you ask him a question to give him something specific to respond to. If he doesn't respond at that time, then forget him.
zilverenvlinder Posted June 16, 2009 Posted June 16, 2009 I don't think "call me sometime" is a huge blow off. But I do think that his not responding to your text is a little blow-offy. DO NOT CALL HIM. Forget about him and if he likes you he WILL call you. PLEASE don't call him. If he calls you, it will be a nice little surprise. If he doesn't, then f-k 'em. Don't be ashamed about your ONS. We've all had them and I'm sure you had fun. So don't take it so seriously.
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