keving123 Posted June 14, 2009 Posted June 14, 2009 Hello my names kevin, my current relationship is falling apart and i have no idea what to do. its my fault recently i left the life of drugs and im almost back on my feet. now that im connected back with reality it made me drive deep into depressed and i have barley anyfriends left. i became jealous of my girlfriend becuase she had a successful life and alot of good friends. (real friends). with all this envy building up i started becoming nasty towards her and we broke up quite a few times in the four months we've been together. after recently realizing what i was doing to her and how much i was hurting her im trying my hardest to change. i would do anything to take back everything i did. earlyer this week she told me why don't we just be friends and you have no idea how bad that hurt. it felt like someone ripped my heart out and stomped it all over the floor. i can't even write this without tears running down my face. :'(. i love her so much and i want to be with her so much. i never felt this way about a girl before and it just sucks i messed it all up. is there anything i cn do to make this work again? PLEASE HELP!
Mike B. Posted June 14, 2009 Posted June 14, 2009 Kevin, I would show her a copy of this post (not the actual website since you may want to continue to use it). Tell her you wrote it from the bottom of your heart and start treating her like a queen. I say this with the assumption that she has supported and treated you well even through your difficult times. Make a change towards her today and I must say, if you cannot treat her the way she deserves to be treated, then you have to love her enough to let her go and find the love she deserves. You have to do this even though it will hurt you alot. It is a great sacrifice but if you care for her, you can do it. If you are unable to step up and treat her right, you will lose her anyway. Congratulations on getting your life together with the drugs, now go for the other part that counts!
Cloudberry Posted June 14, 2009 Posted June 14, 2009 Congratulations quitting drugs. If you haven't been nice to her, then I can't blame her for wanting to break up with you. Maybe you need to become stronger within yourself, and get your life in better order before you can have a good relationship. That's more important than having a girlfriend. There's always the chance that she will want you back when your situation has improved, and you feel better about yourself and don't feel jealous of her. It sounds like some self-healing has to take place before any good relationship can happen for you.
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