iand Posted June 14, 2009 Posted June 14, 2009 Hi all....have written and received a lot of support from many of you on the loss of the love of my life..next week is a big week as the court stuff finally comes to a conclusion and she has the ability to make contact with me. It's been a long, dark 9 months... Her personal belongings remain in my home..no effort through friends to retrieve. When asked "if you're not reconciling - what about your things" she simply responds "i'll deal with it"... Do i act and donate it all to a women's shelter, send it to her parents where she's been living or send her a letter giving her a week to pick it up. If a relationship is over. You're not interested in reconciliation and you value your belongings would you not act and make arrangements to pick it up? Or...is it possible that a person simply has decided to walk from it and leave it to you to deal with? Or if a person knows you want to try again simply ignore it until they'e ready to deal with it? Thoughts?
ON MY OWN Posted June 14, 2009 Posted June 14, 2009 :DIf you send her a letter atleast giving her a week to pick it up, signature required atleast you have seen it is her decision which is the right thing to do. I have always felt no matter how wrong someone has done me it is best for ME to do the right thing. I have to get ready for church and will come back later and take a look at your other threads. God bless you and my condolences on your loss. I have a loss that I am dealing with as well. Keep a smile:D and take care of yourself!!
CaliGuy Posted June 14, 2009 Posted June 14, 2009 Box it up, put it in the garage or if you can afford it, rent storage and put it there. I would not give it away to charity as it's truly not yours to give away. If friends won't come get it, storage or the garage is the best option right now.
Author iand Posted June 18, 2009 Author Posted June 18, 2009 good advice On My Own...i have taken the high road throughout this ordeal and why stop now? Another letter will go out..give her two weeks to make the necessary arrangements...thanks for the advice.
Author iand Posted June 18, 2009 Author Posted June 18, 2009 Thanls CallGuy...oddly i was given similar advice. Rent a storage locker for a month..send her the key and notice where it is and she has a month to deal with it or lose it. Sound like a respectable proposal?
TaraMaiden Posted June 18, 2009 Posted June 18, 2009 Yes, but don't get caught up in the payments. pay a cash deposit, and make sure it comes back to you....but make sure payment details are in her name.... you don't want to be lumbered with paying for her stuff..... Alternatively, send her a letter via your lawyer to tell her her belongings are in *such-n-such* a place and she has X days to collect or it will be disposed of. I would give 3 weeks...... Not quite a month, so she'll have to get her act together, but not too short a period for her to make arrangements in good time.....
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