ruggy Posted June 14, 2009 Posted June 14, 2009 So we went to dinner and spent three hours talking. Things went pretty smoothly. No silence or awkward moments. Walked her to her car and hugged go night. When I got home I texted her that I had a great time and really enjoyed our time together. I also wished her a good night. She immediately replied back and said thanks you too. She did not say she enjoyed her time too. Think this is a sign that she was not happy with the date?
loveslife Posted June 14, 2009 Posted June 14, 2009 No, I think you're reading into it. Did it seem like she had fun?
Author ruggy Posted June 14, 2009 Author Posted June 14, 2009 Not sure. We had pretty good conversations. No dead air. She was tired though. She got up early today and worked for all of it. Since my luck with match has been 0/256 (yes. sent out 256 e-mails NO ONE RESPONDED. Huge confidence killer. Can't be the profile, it is actually pretty good. My best yet. Must be the looks. One girl responded on POF and said I was ugly as f*ck, so that did not help) , my radar my be off on what I feel. I am mixed. She is nice and smart. As shallow as it sounds, she is not as attractive looking as the X. She's good lucking, just not as attractive. She actually initiated the match too. The only one thus far who I was attracted to enough to respond. Though, she's hard to read.
Scarlett513 Posted June 14, 2009 Posted June 14, 2009 Omg, that girl from PoF was a total jerk. Please don't buy what she said about your looks. Number 1, EVERYONE is different and EVERYONE finds different looks attractive. So even if you weren't very attractive to that girl in particular, you'll be the hottest guy in the world to someone else. Number 2, a great personality and good sense of humor can turn any guy (even one who's not physically "my type") into the sexiest guy around. So please don't let such a nasty, miserable person get you down. As for your date, sounds like she may just have been sleepy and wanted to go to bed. Don't read too much into it. If she really wasn't interested, she probably wouldn't even have responded in the first place since you didn't ask any direct question. I'd say CALL HER, not text, the day after tomorrow and ask her if she'd like to go out again. I'd put money on a second date.
loveslife Posted June 14, 2009 Posted June 14, 2009 Yeah, I'd agree with Scarlett, I think she must have been tired. I also think it's better to call to ask her out again instead of another text.
xpaperxcutx Posted June 14, 2009 Posted June 14, 2009 My question is why are you treating your dating life like a statistic? How about instead of looking for percentage of interest, take it in stride that she enjoyed her time and if she responds when you contact her in 3, days, you're set to go after the second date. Ruggy, why are you hooked on online dating? I notice the trend of you seeking women on Match.com and POF when maybe it's better just to meet women in real life.
SoulSearch_CO Posted June 14, 2009 Posted June 14, 2009 In response to the OP, you're reading too much into it. She said "you, too." Sounds like she was repeating what you said, but it's so much easier on text to keep it brief.
BobSacamento Posted June 14, 2009 Posted June 14, 2009 I'd Spend more mental energy on getting the second date rather then on a text message.
Author ruggy Posted June 14, 2009 Author Posted June 14, 2009 Maybe be a bit harsh, but inevitably, that is basically what the women whom I contacted must also think or they would had responded. Already used it it already. Umm, can't date co-workers, so that is out. Don't go to bars or night clubs so thats out. Not much else out there.
xpaperxcutx Posted June 14, 2009 Posted June 14, 2009 Maybe be a bit harsh, but inevitably, that is basically what the women whom I contacted must also think or they would had responded. Already used it it already. Umm, can't date co-workers, so that is out. Don't go to bars or night clubs so thats out. Not much else out there. But according to your profile, you live in metro ny, so that means you live in the city right? Statistically nyc has more women than men, so the possibility of meeting women is high. You just have to know how to present yourself confidently and maturely in order to get their number.
Author ruggy Posted June 14, 2009 Author Posted June 14, 2009 Confidence and maturity is never a problem. However, online everything is backwards on how things go. Since I don't go to bars or nightclubs I don't see too many opportunities in the real world; much like the online world it seems.
39388 Posted June 14, 2009 Posted June 14, 2009 My question is why are you treating your dating life like a statistic? When you have been rejected hundreds of times in a row with no end in sight, you might be a little upset too.
loser101 Posted June 14, 2009 Posted June 14, 2009 Not sure. We had pretty good conversations. No dead air. She was tired though. She got up early today and worked for all of it. Since my luck with match has been 0/256 (yes. sent out 256 e-mails NO ONE RESPONDED. Huge confidence killer. Can't be the profile, it is actually pretty good. My best yet. Must be the looks. I know nothing about online dating but I know a lot about serial emails (jobsearch). I cannot imagine you personalised 256 emails. I wouldn't respond either to something that's just a standardised message! Those women knew you emailed everyone
Author ruggy Posted June 15, 2009 Author Posted June 15, 2009 I know nothing about online dating but I know a lot about serial emails (jobsearch). I cannot imagine you personalised 256 emails. I wouldn't respond either to something that's just a standardised message! Those women knew you emailed everyone I personalized the first 80 and the last 50 or so. The middle I just just a generalized intro. The first and last are questions about their profile. Suddenly, I have a lot of, well time on my hands.
xpaperxcutx Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 I personalized the first 80 and the last 50 or so. The middle I just just a generalized intro. The first and last are questions about their profile. Suddenly, I have a lot of, well time on my hands. Step away from your computer, ruggy... alarms are going off in my head that you're putting your entire dating hopes on internet dating when you should actually be meeting women in person. I would much rather you go for speed dating than behind a computer writing email about email. At least then your date wouldn't ask you about your dating successes, because 250 something letters are too much.... way too much.
carhill Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 So, call her tomorrow and ask her out for a weeknight date. I assume you're interested in her. If so, don't waffle. Remain true. Her acceptance of you is your thanks, for now. Don't expect gushing. Patience and confidence.
Author ruggy Posted June 15, 2009 Author Posted June 15, 2009 Yea, there is some interest, no doubt. But, she was hard to get info out off; not sure if she is really in to me that much. Not like I was surprised. Its just common ground by now.
39388 Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 Yea, there is some interest, no doubt. But, she was hard to get info out off; not sure if she is really in to me that much. Not like I was surprised. Its just common ground by now. What type of info would she not give?
Author ruggy Posted June 15, 2009 Author Posted June 15, 2009 What type of info would she not give? Seemed to be hard to get her to open up on personal stuff. I ended up speaking through most of the date.
39388 Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 Seemed to be hard to get her to open up on personal stuff. I ended up speaking through most of the date. Hard to tell if she was nervous. If she's still secretive after awhile, that's trouble. She might want time before she opens up though.
Author ruggy Posted June 15, 2009 Author Posted June 15, 2009 Hard to tell if she was nervous. If she's still secretive after awhile, that's trouble. She might want time before she opens up though. She was pretty talkative on the phone. We spoke for 45 mins or so. I'll call her Tues. or Wed. for plans on the weekend. Though I suspect she'll be "busy" or unavailable.
39388 Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 She was pretty talkative on the phone. We spoke for 45 mins or so. I'll call her Tues. or Wed. for plans on the weekend. Though I suspect she'll be "busy" or unavailable. You'll see how she is on the phone. She did seem positive after the first date, so you may well get a second date. Don't assume an answer of "no". Hopefully she won't use the "busy" excuse or worse make herself impossible to reach by phone.
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