motive2002 Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 Title says it all. I've had two serious girlfriends do this to me in a row. One minute they love me, the next it's total withdrawal. It's like their feelings for me just shut off like a switch. I'm still wondering how that is possible, and how it can happen so fast. I never cheated. I'm not abusive. I tried to be a good boyfriend, just dunno what it is =\
runner Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 another guy ? and if that was the reason, then i suppose 'serious' is debatable. give it a couple weeks; the other guy doesn't call her back and she comes to your place just to say "hi"
mammax3 Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 Did they think the relationship was as serious as you thought it was? Beyond that, maybe the gf got caught up in the relationship and felt the strong emotions but then realized it was lust, or the hype that was propelling her feelings and so decided to pull out (so to speak). Are you wondering so you can grow from this experience and maybe not take the same path with another future gf?
Trialbyfire Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 Men do it too. IMO, it's that their emotions aren't deep and they've found another branch to swing to.
Kamille Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 Yep, men do it too. How long had you been with your exes when it happened to you? In my case, it was always at around the 4th month mark. It's easy to feel in love in the infatuation stage. That's why I now joke that I don't take men seriously until the 6th month of an exclusive relationship.
Ariadne Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 Title says it all. I've had two serious girlfriends do this to me in a row. One minute they love me, the next it's total withdrawal. It depends, if you were the one pursuing her, chances are her interest is pretty low. (Unless when she met you she became mesmerized and loved you just as much, which rarely happens)
bac Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 my guess that in your situation the details are everything. but you do not give them. are you detail oriented person? there should be smth.
You'reasian Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 Title says it all. I've had two serious girlfriends do this to me in a row. One minute they love me, the next it's total withdrawal. It's like their feelings for me just shut off like a switch. I'm still wondering how that is possible, and how it can happen so fast. I never cheated. I'm not abusive. I tried to be a good boyfriend, just dunno what it is =\ Its hard to say, because there are alot of possibilities. We need more information. You could have crossed one of her boundaries and now she's lost interest. She could be interested in someone else. Someone could be turning her against you. She could have a psychological/personality disorder. She could be dealing with family/work issues. or Some combination of the above.
BCCA Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 Women play along with a relaitonship while they detach emotionally, and then it all dissapears in an instant. They litterally break up with you over a month or longer, and when theyre finally ready to leave (and usually have their eyes on another guy), they bail without hesitation. You are usually the last one to know youre going to get dumped.
Lucky555 Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 Here is what i think happened. There is not enough communication. this happens all so easily. I find when a guy isn't communicating with me as much as I do with him, I back off and gradually begin to lose interest. Obviously if the guy isn't putting in his effort then I don't see why I should do more "work" to make up for what isn't there. If your making "future" dates with the girl continuosly and actually caring and being involved in her life she will not be backing out but the two of you will become closer. This is because if you can't ask her what is going on and you have to post here about why she backing off, then its communication because you should be able to ask her this yourself. (however this is depends on how far into the relationship you two are.) She could have just lost interest too.......but you need to ask her. Hopefully it is clear you two are dating and not just acting as friends. hope that helps
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