cocktails&dreams Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 Hi all, this is my first post so it could well be a long one! I work in a law firm over here in the UK and the last relationship I had was 18 months long and ended in Novembee 2008 when my girlfriend took a job in Sydney, Australia. I was obviously devastated but was in a position whereby I couldn't blame her for it as it was an amazing opportunity for her and it was a really difficult decision to make. Anyway, after that, I went into hibernation until after Xmas and then got myself back onto the dating scene. I have been on numerous dates and have gone for dinner and rdrinks with many female friends. To be honest, I was just out to have some fun and not particularly looking for a relationship as I still had my barriers up from being hurt by my previous girlfriend. A new lawyer has now joined my office from another team. She has been working for the firm for 18 months and has been in our team since May. I didn't really know her that well as although she was attractive, she seemed quite difficult to talk to. Anyway, when she joined the team, I started sending her a few mails just to welcome her and it turned into banter as we both seem to share the same sense of humour. One particular mail from her suggested that if I needed a buddy to keep me from drinking excess amounts of alcohol (she was being sarcastic here), she would be more than happy to help. So I took that as a cue to ask her out and made the move. She accepted and we ended up going out last Wednesday night. The first date went great. We met at a bar in town where I knew the bar manager so we got looked after very well and we must have been there for over 4 hours just sat there talking non stop. There was no awkward silences and we both shared a lot of personal information about each other's work and private lives. We also had lots in common in respect of the types of food we like to eat and what wines we drink. At the end of the night, it was raining so I gave her my jacket to wear whilst I walked her back to her apartment and we were walking arm in arm. When we go to her apartment we had a quick kiss on the lips and I wished her goodnight. I texted her when I got home and said I had a great time and that we should go out for dinner soon. She replied saying she had a great time too and due to the fact that we have so much in common, it would be criminal not to indulge that. Anyway, since Wednesday, we've seen each other in work and swapped one or two emails and then when I left the office I texted her to say hope she had a good weekend and does she fancy going for dinner next week. She said next week may be difficult due to her schedule but definitely the week after. Now to the questions. I assume by making herself unavailable next week, she is playing the game and making me wait as I am confident that she is interested in going for a second date. Secondly, how much contact should I have with her. As I work with her, I plan to stay out of her way and not really send any emails in work and keep it strictly professional during office hours. Would you guys recommend any contact between sat and the end of next week? Also, if she doesn't get back to me about when the best date is for the second date, when should I chase her about it? I really like the girl and this is the first time I have thought that I would like to get to know this girl more since my last girlfriend. I have a habit of going into things feet first and need to play it very cool for this girl so any other general advice would be much appreicated.
lab_brat Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 Awwww, how sweet. God love a man that gives you his jacket when its raining Since you invited her and did the after-texting, i'd say just wait till she contacts you next. And definitely keep it professional at work, no-one likes to go into the stationery cupboard for post-its and encounter that sweaty-sex smell. Good luck!
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