xpaperxcutx Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 It's all a matter of separating the important things in my life from the non-essentials. I mean if it's so easy for men to do it, why can't I as a girl/woman, apply the same method to my life? If I can separate emotion from my daily activity, I can actually accomplish more than what I can do now. It's all a matter of mentality than anything else. Yes, yes, yes... No more crying over spilled milk, FWBs, and other emotional driven triviality.
TaraMaiden Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 It is not 'easy' for men to do it. But if it's a question of mental training, you will realise in time, that actually - it's all non-essential. You'll have to completely give up and abandon being attached to everything as you die - so why wait until then? By all means treat things as 'important' - just be equally liberally prepared to release them as and when necessary. Simple!
wuggle Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 You'll have to completely give up and abandon being attached to everything as you die - so why wait until then? By all means treat things as 'important' - just be equally liberally prepared to release them as and when necessary. Simple! Generally agree, but there is also some that would argue that 'passion' is what makes life worth living, think it's important to be passionate and impassionate in equal measures. The difficulty lies in knowing what to get passionate about and what to discard as irrelevant or unable to be changed.
TaraMaiden Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 Tell me how many people carry passion on after dying....? EVERYTHING - without exception, has to be abandoned, eventually. I'm not saying you shouldn't have it in your life. What I am saying is that - like everything else - it's a temporary condition. It varies.... even from day to day...... And one day, it will be altogether absent.
wuggle Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 I think we're saying the same thing I'll go away now (have got to mow the lawn anyway, I hate mowing the grass, seems such a waste of time it just grows back again ..oh well) you seem to say it better than me.:laugh:
TaraMaiden Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 I'm sorry... Motormouth strikes again.... I should read better....!! Off-topic: (The idyllic Summer afternoon of course, is when the skies are blue, the birds are singing, the bees are buzzing - and the mower's broken......! ) OK - sorry - back to topic!!
wuggle Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 - and the mower's broken...... Well what do you know, so it is and look there's a beer in the fridge ... (thanks for the tip) :D:D
Isolde Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 TaraMaiden hit upon a good point. It's possible for something to be very important and yet not that important at the same time... Many women can compartmentalize to some degree, but we're more bound to the hormonal cycle which makes it more difficult. And, anyway, you can make a choice not to compartmentalize; it's not an ability you have to use just because you have it. The problem with compartmentalization is one can get really used to it over time and it becomes a convenient way to avoid facing the fact that, sooner or later, your emotions will find an outlet, probably not an appropriate one. I tried it once or twice, decided it wasn't for me, and no real harm done. If it had become a pattern, it would have been bad for my psyche.
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