now_what Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 Tomorrow is my son's college graduation and I am going with my 16 year old daughter. I am so proud of him and I am looking forward to being there - but - occasions like this where couples and families are gathered are so hard. It just ticks me off so much that my ex was not content to be with me and our daughter, that he had to dump me after 30 years for an old washed up biker chick. Just seeing other people together usually brings on the tears - not out of jealousy, but out of regret, why did things have to turn out this way, what could I have done to prevent this. I'm not even sure if my ex is coming to commencement. He said somthing about being busy at work - oh, come on now - he probably just has a big poker run to go on. I mean how many times do your children graduate from college - get real. Probably doesn't want to take the chance of running into me if he is there with his new little biker chick wife - whatever. You know what, I really don't care. I would rather see him there with her, than him not be there. He's still such a chicken, just grow up and acknowledge your life and actions, instead of avoiding things because you might feel uncomfortable - everything is not about you.
NopeNah Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 It's NOT about YOU or YOUR "EX"... it's about your Kid!! So, that's where your focus should be...
Author now_what Posted June 13, 2009 Author Posted June 13, 2009 Don't worry, my focus is on my kid. He texted me the other day and mentioned that he didn't have any shoes that did not have the soles taped on and could I maybe bring him a new pair. So, like a good mom, I went to the mall tonight after work and hunted for something I thought he would like. Technically, my older daughter could be in the commencement ceremony tomorrow too, she finished up last November, but she chose not to be in it. We are all going on vacation next week with my entire family and I plan to have a party for them. I'm not going to dwell on what has happened anymore - it just makes me mad at times that things turned out this way. It does cause a twinge of sadness to see other couples and families together, because I wish things could have been different. I mean after 30 years you would have figured you were with the person you were going to be with forever. Oh, well, life is good - graduation tomorrow then helping my son move back home in the evening, then heading to North Carolina for a weeklong beach vacation with my entire family.
NopeNah Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 Don't worry, my focus is on my kid. He texted me the other day and mentioned that he didn't have any shoes that did not have the soles taped on and could I maybe bring him a new pair. So, like a good mom, I went to the mall tonight after work and hunted for something I thought he would like. Technically, my older daughter could be in the commencement ceremony tomorrow too, she finished up last November, but she chose not to be in it. We are all going on vacation next week with my entire family and I plan to have a party for them. I'm not going to dwell on what has happened anymore - it just makes me mad at times that things turned out this way. It does cause a twinge of sadness to see other couples and families together, because I wish things could have been different. I mean after 30 years you would have figured you were with the person you were going to be with forever. Oh, well, life is good - graduation tomorrow then helping my son move back home in the evening, then heading to North Carolina for a weeklong beach vacation with my entire family. That's naturaul..some family's make it...most don't...get the shoes and take pride in what you've accomplished! Thats huge! it's about your kid.... and not you and your "other"..best wishes though!take care!
Author now_what Posted June 13, 2009 Author Posted June 13, 2009 Graduation was a success. Funny, I was worried about seeing the various couples and family groups but that didn't bother me. In fact, several of the family type groups were arguing, while my daughter and I sat peacefully. My son brought it up on his own that he had invited his dad to come but he was "busy", probably on an all important poker run - my son's words. He said his dad has been trying to act like he's cool, but he just really needs to get over himself. And I swear, I did not comment whatsoever.
Patrice Posted June 14, 2009 Posted June 14, 2009 I was in the same boat two weeks ago .. ex never showed .. the kids will get it .. You keep being strong for your children .. he'll come out looking like a loser, which is probably why he's your ex
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