Foreign Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 I've been on this relationship for a year now. We were suppose to get married this upcoming December. Well we always had issues because of her jealousy, like to the point that if a ever said hi to me she thought that I had some kind of relationship at one point in time. I went on a trip to the east coast for work, my friend who lives here with me has business with my ex's dad's company and he really wants to meet him so he always makes fun of me, and tells me to get back with her. Well she lives in in this city that i went to and i didn't see her. I got back from my trip, my girlfriend picked me up at the airport and my friend calls me on the phone i answered and the first thing he says is, did u hook up with your ex or what? well, my girlfriend heard that and from then on she things that i got together and did things with her. Well, that same day she was mad for a couple of hours and her main argument was that i hide things from her. Then told her the whole thing and she insists that i'm lying to her. after that we had a couple of good days, and bad ones when she just didn't wanna see me and told me to go away and not to contact her again, every time she said that she would call back the next day and ask me how i was doing. Well a week of that went by, and she was getting ready to go a moved to a different country for 3 months so I went to see her as a surprise. She saw me and hugged me right away. She told me that she loved me more than anything else in her life, that she missed me so much the time that we were apart from each other (5 days), that i was everything for her, but that she was still hurt from what happen and that she needs to realize if this relationship is what she wants for the rest of her life or not. She still thinks that I lied to her which i didn't. The day before she left we spent the entire day together, laying at a park, playing around, talking about her plans and about our future kids and things like that. Her last words from the plane were, I love you dear, I will always love you no matter what happens i will love you forever. Basically i don't know what's going on, one day she wants to spend eternity with me, the next she remembers that she's mad at me. I have literally done everything there is to get her back, but is that feeling that she can't trust me that gets on the way. Now she's gone, but I'm planning to go see her in this country in august, because I know she loves me and this can't just end like this. Maybe she just needs time and no contact for a while, i don't know.
loveshy Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 What you need to do is NO CONTACT. NO CONTACT is you do not need to contact her but she contacting you. If you get to see her DO NOT TALK ABOUT RELATIONSHIP. DO NOT IGNORE HER BUT IF IT IS ON PHONE JUST END THE CONVERSATION FIRST. If you try to convince her that will NEVER work. By telling you that she loves you she is keeping you with her as a puppy. Just go out of contact. Do not try to move into another relationship. Wait atleast 2 months. If she does not tells you she wants you, its time to move on.
Mike B. Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 Well, I would like to know more about this jealousy. I am not sure if it is justified or not. Your friend asking you if you got with your ex in earshot of your current girlfriend would cause anyone in her position to be suspicious but this was just one event. Do you honestly play any role in her jealous behavior or does she tend to just be a jealous person in all of her relationship and especially with you?
Author Foreign Posted June 13, 2009 Author Posted June 13, 2009 There was no reason to be jealous, sometimes it seemed that i wasn't allowed to have friends because she would get mad. But when it was just us two, everything was perfect.
marlena Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 Well, I would like to know more about this jealousy. I am not sure if it is justified or not. Your friend asking you if you got with your ex in earshot of your current girlfriend would cause anyone in her position to be suspicious but this was just one event. Do you honestly play any role in her jealous behavior or does she tend to just be a jealous person in all of her relationship and especially with you? My thoughts exactly. Where is this insecurity coming from? Are you unwittingly making her feel this way? She sounds sincere in her feelings so my advice to you would be to do everything in your power to make her feel safe and secure in your relationship. So, yes, you should go visit her if you feel the same way about her as she does about you.
Author Foreign Posted June 13, 2009 Author Posted June 13, 2009 I think the fact that a had a lot of friends that are girls, bothered he so much. At school I'm a full time student and also a coach for a competitive sport. I had the feeling that she was worry that she could lose me and that's why she became so jealous. I'm super sure that she loves me, but i'm also sure that she is hurt and that's why she's been acting so hot/cold.
boogieboy Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 I think she used the phone bit as an excuse to try to break it off. Its waay too conveinent that she did this right before leaving to go away for 3 months. Girls are sneaky like that...I wouldnt be surprised that her hot & cold behavior is because of the guy she was in contact with at her destination.
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