You'reasian Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 I read a thread that reminded me of a woman I met a few years on a chat site, similar this one, late 20's I think. We talked quite a bit on the phone - she seemed pretty cool at first - but after a while I found that she was extremely argumentative - not one to just have a good debate or discussion or one to enjoy a relaxed discussion. This woman was a scrapper - the thing is - she was abandoned at a young age, probably raped (and exposed to abuse) and was forced to live on the streets. She didn't have parents and in fact grew up going from shelter to shelter. When she got tired of that, she would spend evenings on the tops of raised buildings for shelter, since it was hidden from the dirty/dangerous things that happened between the alleys and street below. She would eat at shelters and other places that offered free or low cost food. Not only was she a scrapper, but she's not one to demonstrate manners. For instance, she would find something about someone in public and litterally start an argument with that person - sometimes lying to create a case for her own argument. She loved picking fights (arguments) with men and as it turns out - she dated both men and women. Definitely not the kind of woman you would take home to your mother or out to a fine restaraunt - although she's a great cook. She's a really street smart and savy person, has bully tendencies. Bottom line: I think this poor woman was traumatized as a kid, perhaps abused by men, maybe several men and was never really raised at a home with people - biologically related to her or otherwise - whom truly and genuinely loved her. From what I gather, she pretty much raised herself and grew into an independent, strong feminist type. We don't speak on a regular basis and there are absolutely no intentions of being in a relationship with her, but there's always a chance we could come in contact. I'd like to ask fellow LS-ers how to better get along with this kind of person. I've got compassion for her situaion and I understand basic needs and such, but what are some ways to understand her? or seeing that she doesn't need my compassion, should I just blow her off and leave her be?
alphamale Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 or seeing that she doesn't need my compassion' date=' should I just blow her off and leave her be?[/quote'] i think thats a good idea Yo
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