Mr. Noname Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 Hello fellow dumpees, Today I had a nice evening, having a good time with friends. Somehow I didn't think about her, it was a pretty feeling! But it gets me down that she has got the same feeling! She is over me, she is moving on! I must be strong and behave the same. I came to the conclusion: don't think about the ex, how he/she is having well times now, that are thoughts that destroy you! It's hard, but let me put it to you this way: he/she is having a good time, but just don't think about it, you must love yourself and the only thing that matters now is ----> YOU! It's only you that matters now, I don't know if you are in the same situation as I am, but I got a closure: she don't want me back and I need to move on. Don't be guilty to have a good time! It's difficult but we can think infinite about how we could her/him back but it just wasting our time. People, I am saying this to you and myself: move on with your life, what happened, happened. There is no turning back! Maybe you think about the things you did wrong or shouldn't do, but it's a waste of time! The situation is freaking hard but we must deal with this sh*t, we don't want to go in a depression do we? We are dumpees, but it will make us stronger. We have given our love to someone, but somehow it stopped! We know that we are capable of loving someone and that is great! A thing I learned is not to worry about the future. We all worry about the future but that is something we don’t control, so don’t worry about things like: will I ever fall in love again, will we ever get together again, do people want to date me, do people think that I’m ugly as f***? There is no such thing as a ‘destiny’; you make your own happiness! So grab yourself together and don’t dwell in your emotions. I know it’s so fu**** up, but just don’t think about the ex, like I said: he/she doesn’t want you back so why bother? Move on people, he/she is doing the same and doesn’t give a f*** about you anymore! Maybe he/she is thinking about you but if he/she wants you back she would already called you! Stick to NC my fellow dumpees! NC, I broke it only to get some answers (few days ago). It helped me, I know what I’m up to. I don’t have false hope anymore. If you don’t have any significant questions to ask don’t call! I called about things like: if it was true love, how she came to dump me, what her reasons were etc. It helped me to get some closure, I didn't call to get her back and didn't begged, cried or something similar. What I want to say to my ex: I get knocked down, but I get up again, you’re never going to keep me down! I’m sorry for the long post! I don’t think my English is very good, can you people understand me or is it just rubbish? Good luck to you all! Mr. Noname
BearPower Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 once you stop trying to control everything, **** just comes together. good lesson. Is that a quote or is that a quote?!!
WiseOne1 Posted June 15, 2009 Posted June 15, 2009 I 100% agree, a lot of people need to understand or even haven't come to reality that u only have 1 life to live, and you can't live it being stuck on someone who is noth worth your time, when you become a 80 year old person you want to know that you enjoyed every bit of your life, and did not sit around moaning and crying and locked in doors. You don't want to waste life trying to please anyone, and I love "LoveShack" a lot, it helped me through tough times, but some people go in the same circles for months and months, your ex's are not somewhere on a forum, there some where having fun, there not somewhere plotting how to get u back, there somewhere plotting and preparing for there next gf or bf. My point is live life, and enjoy yourself but don't plot, and don't worry about rather or not they will come back, if they do that's fine, but until that time, like Nike "Do You".
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