Cali Chris Posted June 12, 2009 Posted June 12, 2009 Well it's been over a month since I last posted! To sum it all up, ( you can read my original post) 13 years together. 7 married. It went from me wanting to be physical again after my 3 child was born in October of 08' (11, 4, 7 1/2 month old) to me finding out about a guy at work she was constantly texting which caused our break up.. she said he was just a friend. Then about 2 months later she was already with this guy. From what I'm getting was they were having an emotional affair already. So it's been since the beginning of January, and I finally got to speak with her and she wants the divorce, and that's all I needed hear really. I have ended all contact with her, just about a 2 weeks ago. ( I would pick up the kids in the morning to take them to grandmas, so I would still see her. We have an arrangement where she is home with the kids on her days, and every other weekend) About 2 weeks ago , I let her know that On her days she would have to take the kids to Grandmas. So i will not be seeing her at all anymore. I'm just trying to get by right now, kinda of realising that it is really over. I guess why I'm posting is , I know some people take longer to get over things like this, but for me it seems that I'm at a stand still, kinda of not getting any better you know. I feel really depressed, even though I've been trying to get out and excercise, and do things I like to do. It doesnt help, I'm not in a good spot financially, so it's hard to do things. Really I'm just frustrated, and venting, and even lonely:o I've been listening to and reading other peoples situations here on LS. It just seems really hard for me to get by:( Cali Chris
Sufferin_Succotash Posted June 13, 2009 Posted June 13, 2009 Cali Chris, I am really sorry to hear about your situation. I am just beginning mine. She left two weeks ago and is talking about a 6 month separation. From what I have read here and I am sure you have to. You (we) just need to let go. I can only imagine how hard it is... like i said I am just now beginning. Something I read here seems to help me alot. It was from Gunny: "Lets say that there is such a thing as "Tha One" (Which by the way Sportsfan ~ there's not!) and lets say you come from the "perfect family" with the "perfect parents" and had the "perfect childhood and life" (Yea Right Mr. Leave It Beaver!) Eventually, sooner of latter any and all of those people are going to leave your life. And if you live to be 150 years old ~ your going to be old and alone. The simple fact of the matter is? Once your parents are gone? Your pretty much on your own in this life, and as you grow older your going to find that all you ever really had in this life? Was yourself." I think that speaks volumes.. at least it does to me. Keep fighting the good fight. Keep getting up and moving forward.
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